DEALING WITH MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE BEFORE THEY DEAL WITH YOU!!! - Manipulators are very difficult to spot because of their subtle, underhanded or deceptive ways. They hide their true intentions and exploit the fear, anxiety, resentments, desires, secrets of their victims. You can recognize a manipulator if you know well their techniques: - You ask direct question, but you wont get a direct answer. They will try to take you anywhere else. They make you feel the bad guy, for confronting them on something, put you on defensive. - They will come with rationalization of their behavior. They want to get something out of you, but they dont want you to see that. For this they will use many ways to buy you on their side or punish if you dont comply. - Because of the indirect nature of manipulation, it’s not easy to defend yourself against it. - Firing question after question without giving a chance to disclosure is intimidation - dirty manipulative technique. - Crazy making - saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it. PRIMARILY CHARACTERISTICS OF THE MANIPULATOR: - Concealing aggressive intentions and behaviors. - Knowing the vulnerabilities of the victim to determine what tactics are likely to be the most effective. - Having a sufficient level of ruthlessness to have no qualms about causing harm to the victim without remorse. BASIC WAYS THAT MANIPULATOR CONTROLS THEIR VICTIMS: - Includes praise, superficial sympathy (crocodile tears), facial expressions such as a forced laugh or smile; - Use money, approval, gifts; attention, public recognition as a reward. - Create an effective climate of fear and doubt. - Using the guilt trap and playing the victim. - Using verbal abuse, explosive anger, or other intimidating behavior to establish dominance or superiority; even one incident of such behavior can condition or train victims to avoid upsetting, confronting or contradicting the manipulator.
Posted on: Mon, 24 Nov 2014 10:39:11 +0000
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