DECISION OF LIFE When growing up, we for see a greater and brighter future of each one of us. We dream about success every day. By the time we reach teens level, we started realizing what life is all about. Especially the continent, country and environment we belong to, where you have to struggle and strive harder before becoming somebody in life. Africa is the lowest and poorest continent in the whole of the universe. For example, Europeans countries and some Americans countries use to give their citizen monthly allowances especially unemployed citizens. But Africa countries, Nigeria to be precise is a country where Government workers have to wait for several months before their salary is been paid. Pensioners need to protest every day before collecting 20% allocations of their pension money and not all of them even receive it. Now at Middle age (25years) and late twenties (29years), family pressure will start to mount upon both Ladies and Men to get married respectively. This is where decision of life comes in. Having a perfect or smooth relationship is one thing, having a fruitful marriage is another thing entirely. Thank God, we belong to the generation where we are free to choose anybody we desire or dream of. To me, nobody can force or frustrate you to marry who you don’t like or want. Marriage is not meant for practice but rather Perfection. Marriage is not a rehearsal thing where you will be practicing your attitude. Marriage is where quick result is wanted or pressure immediately will set in. Choosing a life partner is the hardest decision and decision of life to Human Era. Immediately you choose, your life path begins. Nowadays, getting married with your destined spouse/partner is a LUCK, GRACE and MERCY not by prayer only. There were so many worthy people that get married and still get divorced. Are they not counted/destined to have a fruitful marriage? Making this decision, you must not let all this mentioned below be your priority. 1. Beauty 2. Attitude 3. Personalities 4. Ethnics 5. Religion 6. Spirituality In Africa, especially Nigeria, we make this things mentioned above to choose a life partner. Though, I did not say that we should not use them, but don’t make them as “PRIORITY”. We usually consult religion leaders depends on the one we belong to: Islam clerics (Alfa), Pastors, Prophets and Prophetess and Herbalists. In which they consult their Gods for us in other to choose for us. At the end, the marriage might still crash. Are those Gods telling lies? Statistics shows that 80% of couple that got married starting from the new millennium 01-01-2000. They are struggling with their marriages because of just one thing “CIVILIZATION”. I can’t dictate for anybody. Nobody can decide for your happiness. Majority of youth nowadays, get married from infatuation and lust they get towards their partners which they would think is a love. But later, things will start to fall apart. My Personal Research shows that not having a good spouse or good marriage is caused by our people. They firstly destroy their marriage with Power of tongue. Before getting married, you may hear “ALL MEN ARE THE SAME”, “MEN CAN’T REACH HEAVEN”, and “WOMEN ARE THE SAME”. Power of tongue is really affecting our generation and marriages. We don’t always say positive words about our lives. My only advice for us on how to make decision of life is; 1. Stay away from sin. 2. Fast and pray. 3. Be a share full giver to lesser people. Having a fruitful marriage will reflect at where you are working because good things will always be coming your ways. I always tell people at Marriage Seminars that I attended, being vigilant during a relationship is very important. We love our partner doesn’t mean we should overlook some steps. Take note of this, if you are dating somebody and you have not see a positive change in your life and in that relationship of yours for at least three months or at most six month. Please quit that kind of relationship, don’t make a mistake because you love that person and keep going in such relationship. I promise the person that he or she will later regret, just pray that it should not be late before you regret it. Is normal and good to stay in love, but is always the best to be a good observant when you are in a relationship. Being observant both physically and spiritually will take a long way in your life and your chosen career. But youth nowadays, most of them are not physically observant enough, talk less of spiritual aspect. They followed what they normally see and hear, instead of them to take versatile steps and decisions, but they won’t. Because they believe that love cover all things and love does it all as well....#continued
Posted on: Fri, 15 Aug 2014 17:16:35 +0000
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