Dealing with Destructive Criticism Understand the person’s true motives. If you have recognized the criticism as completely destructive and hurtful, then you can think about why the person might have said such a thing. This type of analysis can help you feel better. Look for the grain of truth. Okay, so maybe the criticism was delivered in a way that was completely mean, unnecessary, and hurtful, and most of the things that were said were way off base. Maybe your co-worker said you were “a complete mess” or your friend said you were “totally selfish” for what you think was no reason at all. Take a minute to think about it, though: do you need to brush up on your organizational skills? Have you been known to be a little selfish from time to time? If so, then maybe you should reconsider your actions without getting hurt by the way the criticism was given. Remember these are just words. What was that thing your mother told you about “sticks and stones” not being able to break your bones? Sure, you thought it was stupid in third grade, but now, you’re a lot older, and it’s starting to make sense. In the end, destructive criticism isn’t made up of bullets, swords, or atomic bombs — it’s just a series of words connected together in a way designed to make you feel terrible. So, remind yourself that criticism only consists of a bunch of words. Stay confident. The most important thing you can do is maintain your confidence. No matter what people are saying about you, you have to stay strong, remember who you are, and don’t let other people influence your own self-worth. Being confident doesn’t mean you’re flawless, but it does mean loving who you as you are.
Posted on: Tue, 22 Jul 2014 07:09:09 +0000
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