Dumping When I help people, I see their issues from very far away. I see them but I dont ruminate in them. It is such a habit for people when I start helping them, and validate them, that they try to start dumping their issues on to me. That is not a good thing and is considered rude to a healer. It is the difference between me looking at their pile of issues from afar and them wanting to get me closer so the can literally rub my face in them so they have company with them. It is a form of using the person because you want to feel better and you know they are able to help. But it is also a form of not trusting their process and invalidating them in the process. As soon as a person starts dumping on me, I energetically push them away and close my energy to them. It is how I stay balanced and prevent myself from being used. If you really want to release your issues, you cant still be wallowing in them. You cant still get anything out of the story. You have got to want to let them go. You got to stop defining yourself by what has been done to you and start defining yourself by your positive qualities. Also, I am very strong. I can push anybody out of my energy field that is affecting me and knock them on their ars if they continue. Most people are not so strong and are doing all they can just to stay balanced. It is cruel to load them up with any of our issues just because it feels good. If anyone is dumping their issues on anyone that is not a therapist, they are being selfish and cruel. If they dont realize that it is difficult to unwittingly accept the load, their lack of awareness doesnt excuse yours. This seems harsh but it is that important. Be validated from such a pure place that there is no need to tell the story that got you there. You thrived. That is the celebration.
Posted on: Fri, 11 Jul 2014 13:50:13 +0000
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