EMOTIONAL MATURITY: Thinking a lot lately about the phrase emotional maturity. To me, it means taking full responsibility for your own happiness. You dont blame life in any way for your emotional state. You realize that nobody has ever actually hurt you, burned you, cheated you, wronged you, screwed you over or treated you like shit. Those kinds of phrases or ideas simply leave your emotional vocabulary. What they did was respond to you. Mirror you. Test your boundaries. Act out of their own conditioned fears. You soften towards all that ever happened in your life and you see it as love lessons that shaped you. You see where and how you were holding the false belief that love is an obligation rather than a gift. You see all the many ways you lied to yourself or didnt trust yourself or betrayed yourself by not being clear about your needs and desires. Or by not creating consequences for unwanted behaviors. And you forgive yourself for all of that and you commit to not feeling, thinking, speaking or acting like a victim. It is a huge inner shift. HUGE. It requires a tremendous amount of self love. It means you dont beat yourself up for allowing the undesirable behavior or for settling for less than you deserved. But you dont beat anyone else up verbally or mentally either. Because you know you chose that experience. Your soul did. No matter how heinous or magnificent... It was a choice. Granted not a conscious one that you remember. But it was chosen. By you. Before you arrived here. To give you more compassion and capacity for even greater love. To remind you not to be a doormat or a martyr. To teach you to stick up for yourself. To reflect all the slimy and untrue things you feel about yourself on deep levels. For example, if you hold a belief that you simply cannot trust people? Untrustworthy people will keep showing up until you change that thought. Anchor deep worthiness and improve your communication skills. So will you still forget and fall into victim sometimes? Will you say: but what about violence against innocent children, animal cruelty or rapes? Grossly unfair, terribly disturbing and very wrong in 3D terms. As is poverty and any other state of being that seems like an underdog or vulnerable state. Agreed. But simply try this idea...Very evolved souls sometimes pick the hardest and ugliest lessons. Like great actors choose challenging roles. And we all work out our karma in different ways. You can never protect someone from their own soul lessons. You can only offer love and role model safety, health, abundance and empowerment. Also...Maturity most definitely includes playfulness and willingness. It includes playing roles and acting out dramas and stories and reclaiming your wholeness. And its so healthy and feels like such empowered freedom that you wont really want or be able to go back to any other way of being or interacting.~Courtney A. Walsh
Posted on: Wed, 04 Jun 2014 10:40:52 +0000
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