Emotion of anger - its a legacy that we inherited from our ancestors. Aggression in one form or another is common to all animals, even the good hamster. This basic level of instincts, which helps mind to survive, to protect themselves and their offspring and undergo natural selection. Three causes of anger. Anger - a consequence of unmet needs. Internal permission to express anger that emotion gives green light for going outside. Therefore, control over it needs from the first moment of its occurrence. I emphasize two points here. Anger comes out, if it were allowed, and needed to be monitored from the first seconds of its occurrence. The wisest is one who is able to subdue his feelings dictates of reason. May become angry and foolish and wise, but a fool, blinded by anger, becomes his slave. In the heat of rage he did not know what they do, and all his actions he is wrapped in evil. Egyptian proverb Reason number 1 Anger - a reaction to the pain inflicted. This software is a reaction that has been brought to the evolution of automatism. Reason number 2 Anger - a continuation of the primary senses. Feelings such as fear, sadness, guilt may be the root cause for the occurrence of anger. Reason number 3 Anger - a consequence assessment, you have given situation. If you have defined the situation as unfair or contrary to your values, anger arises. Technology anger management Step number one. Speak to yourself that you are angry. Realizing emotion, we take it under control. Not conscious emotion begins to control us. Step number two. Stop for 10 seconds! Dose of adrenaline, which was thrown into the blood by the adrenal glands, should reduce its concentration. Take a few deep breaths. This simple way to help relieve stress, restore breathing. Anger tends to increase. And if it does not stop at the initial stage of irritation to do so it will be very tyazhelo.V result of stop you get valuable time to make the right decision in the circumstances. Step number 3. Put yourself in the shoes of the person who caused the anger in you. Sincerely try to understand his position and behavior. The basis of any action is a positive motive. The desire to understand and accept helps to feel compassion for the man. Compassion gives us the emotional advantage and confidence. Step number 4. Now think about the best solution in this situation. Ask yourself this question: what decision and action now will be the best? What is the result using such a reaction you want to get? Step number 5. Suggest a decision or take action. Be as understood at the moment. Do not fall for possible provocations and emotional attacks on your side. You took the anger under control, and now you need to keep it in a managed framework. Speak calmly and confidently, it will strengthen control over your anger and anger weaken interlocutor. I have bad news: aggression in relationships is a very, very long time. That was formed millions of years will not disappear immediately. And now the good news: we can develop a meta-account and learn weaken instinctive reaction, replacing them with the humanized behaviors. snob.ru/profile/28302/blog/77750
Posted on: Thu, 26 Jun 2014 06:15:14 +0000
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