Equality Headquarters Like Share Comment Tag When our relationship finally ended, I struggled because I’d given up so much of my identity to accommodate his. I didn’t know how to define myself without him. But I realize now that our relationship didn’t fail simply because he was white and I was Asian. It failed because we had different values systems. Although Matt did not use racial slurs against me or tell me I was unequal because I’m Asian, he had racial biases that prevented him from seeing people of color as the same as him. He didn’t think minorities should be afforded equal opportunities because he benefited from white privilege and wanted to maintain that. He viewed me as an exception, someone who could pass as white, even though his family didn’t. But I’m not white. I don’t identify as white or as a member of the “model minority.” I don’t want to pass or be privy to conversations supporting white privilege. I know this now, but back then, I was too afraid to speak up, and too afraid to be alone.
Posted on: Sat, 29 Nov 2014 21:26:00 +0000
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