Every judgment contains both a criticism and a demand. None of us wants to admit we are judgmental, but who of us is not sometimes critical and demanding? Persistent and insistent judgment is a characteristic of a codependent, dysfunctional, and doomed relationship. This is true of all relationships: marriages, friendships, communities, and even nations. If we want to be the solution rather than the problem, (at whatever level) we will have to abandon judgment. We will have to be affirming and cooperative rather than critical and demanding. While none of us can be perfectly affirming, we can stop when we catch ourselves criticizing. And while none of us can completely cooperative, we can stop when we catch ourselves demanding. But that will not happen until we can say with deep sincerity: I too am flawed. I have absolutely NO right to criticize. I have absolutely NO right to demand. I am not God.
Posted on: Wed, 12 Nov 2014 16:28:58 +0000
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