FANQ open adoption of a older child (4 years) with special needs (genetic disease, heart murmer that needs to be watched but is going away on its own, and looking into learning disabilities as well). This is the situation Im looking at (Im the birth mother). My daughter has progressed to the point that I can not fully care for her like she needs now.. She will need much therapy and doctors appointments, and needs to have a parent that can stay home with her while the other works and provides for her.. I love her more then anything and this has been the most painful and hard decision I have ever had to think about. Im a single mom the father is not in the picture and doesnt even provide and support (out of the county) very little family support and the ones that do provide some are in a different state so cant do much. Living in government rental with money threw the government to live while I struggle to do school from home and keep her home right now so she dosent get sick to much (part of the genetic disease is getting sick easily). Shes going to need so much more then I can give realistically. My 2 options are stay at home and give her the therapy and learning infrastructure she needs every day but not be able to advance myself and be able to get out of government housing and support. Or I focus on school and finding a job but she then does not get all the therapy and one on one time she needs.. And its just not fair to her. I just want the best for my child and for her to be able to get everything she deserves and needs. She at first seems like a relatively normal child but after spending some time with her you notice she cant speak properly dosent understand more then basic concepts cant follow most instructions unless its something that been done over and over and she remembers. She has less then half the normal vocabulary of kids her age and repeats her self talking in circles and its the same thing everyday. Basically my question is there any similar scenarios or the likely hood of finding adoptive parents for her? I dont want her going into foster care just want to find her adoptive family. Has anyone taking In an older special needs child with success? I just want her to be happy and loved and taken care of in ways I cant provide. This is killing me to write this out and to face the fact that I feel like a failure but I have hit a brick wall and there is no way around or over it. I have tried my best to give my daughter everything she deserves but it just is not enough
Posted on: Tue, 02 Sep 2014 18:09:46 +0000
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