FEELING NEGLECTED? Ever feel neglected by your spouse? Do you think your spouse ever feels neglected by you? Neglect is a common marriage problem. Career demands, increased workloads and parenting responsibilities are sources of marital neglect. No one likes feeling second place, regardless of the reason - even when it makes “sense.” Some spouses have it rough because one works nights and the other days; they’re always apart. And when they ARE together one is always tired or exhausted, it seems, because they’re worn out! Chronic separation stresses relationships. Things start going sideways when the cries of the neglected partner are ignored; the couple starts growing apart, and a host of problems fill the relational void. There’s another dynamic to this issue, too: Kids. Kids spell love t-i-m-e. Neglect sends the message to children that they arent important because if mom or dad really cared theyd be around more. So do whatever you can to spend time with your spouse AND your children. Try not to miss too much of those precious early years when your kids are growing up. Attend their school plays, concerts, ballgames, or whatever it is they enjoy doing with YOU. DO life with your family. Live. Experience. And enjoy. When it comes to work and lifes other activities, the truth is that no matter how hard you work to finish your current project you will NEVER be done because there is ALWAYS something else. *** So no matter what, don’t let work consume your entire life leaving your spouse and family feeling neglected, unwanted or unloved. Do whatever you can to never let your family feel like they take second place to something else in your life. What can you do? 1) Solicit Their Understanding. IF you must work long hours for a certain period of time, enlist the understanding and support of your family by helping them see why this is important. Promise to make it up to them - and KEEP your promise. 2) Listen. If at any time your partner mentions that he or she feels that work or other activities are consuming too much of your time, discuss the issue. Listen, and make an effort to understand their feelings. Find a solution that serves and supports the whole family. 3) Open Your Eyes. The key to dealing with neglect is to catch it before it turns into something serious. So keep your eyes and heart open to see if you might be neglecting your family. Decide today that there isn’t anything more important than your marriage and children. And if neglect is indeed causing problems within your home, sit down with your spouse right now to find solutions before the family ties start unraveling. Never let neglect, no matter how noble the reason, steal life’s greatest treasure from you: Love.
Posted on: Sat, 24 Jan 2015 04:55:19 +0000
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