FROM A MAN ALSO: Dear Zane, I normally dont write because I enjoy reading your advice. You are very good at what you do, though Im not a huge fan of the spiritual bent some of your readers are on. As it were, I would first like to say Im a big fan of your work. Been a big fan since I was 17. (LOLz) Now that I have that off my chest, I need to ask some advice. Ive been with the love of my life for five years. We were friends for five years before that, so it was not really a whirlwind romance. Since we have been together, we have been through a lot but we always come together in the end. Her son, I treat as my son, and I do for her the best I can whenever I can. we recently moved to California from GA about 8-9 months ago. She is a well educated woman so getting a steady decent job was no problem for her. I on the other hand am a simple high school graduate whos also a Navy vet. Getting work for me was kinda hard. Not seeing any work that fit me I decided to go to school. I recently applied to Film School and will be getting accepted soon. heres the problem, my love wants to be an actress. She is very talented and I believe and support her in any way I can, but the problem is she wants me to put a part for her in every single one of my future projects. The thing is, I dont want to do that because I see it hurting both my, and her career in the future. I dont want her to be known as *********s wife or ********s girlfriend. I want her to make her name on the basis of her own talent. when I told her that I would not do that, that she would have to audition and get the roles like all other actors, she got highly upset with me, yelling at me, telling me how ungrateful I was. She screamed at me about all the things he does for me and that the least I could do was help her out by helping her get out there. I told her that I would recommend her to all the other film students I would be working with. In that way, she could showcase her talent on her own terms and not because she was my wife. she wasnt hearing that. She got pissed off and went to her room to have a I hate the world nap. Its the next morning and she wants nothing to do with me. She doesnt respond to my good Mornings she wont connect with my typical good morning smooches. Its like she hates me. So my question is: was I wrong to not just let her be in my projects without earning her place? Or should I have just agreed to put her in all of my future projects regardless of how it would make us both look. Please answer this. I have no Idea what to do. Im so sick of her throwing tantrums when she doesnt get her way. Im close to leaving but I dont want to leave her son in this shitty situation. Please Zane, Tell me, was I wrong? Confused Brother MY RESPONSE: She is acting silly and both of you are arguing over the porterhouse steak of a cow that has not even been born yet, rather less slaughtered. You have not even started film school and she needs to be aggressive to get roles on her own. There is a LONG LIST of successful male filmmakers and actors that do not put their wives in every project that they participate in, even if the wives are actresses, and vice versa. If she is really into acting, she will be able to name at least a dozen of them herself without blinking. I can name a few. Antoine Fuqua is married to Lela Rochon. Will Smith is married to Jada Pinkett Smith and even in After Earth, where their own son was in the movie, another actress portrayed his wife. Tom Cruise was married to THREE actresses and they were not in all of his films. Laurence Fishburns wife is an actress. Denzel Washingtons wife is an actress. Steven Spielbergs ex was an actress. The list goes on and on. She is tripping and acting childish. My opinion. Good luck with that one.
Posted on: Sun, 09 Feb 2014 22:40:12 +0000
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