Fan Question: Im not a parent, nor do I have mixed children. Im just a senior in highschool who found inspiration in this page to be myself and hold strong for what I love. During my junior year of high school, I fell inlove with the man of my dreams. Hes gentle, inspirational, a total sweet heart who was there for me while I was undergoing a dark time in my life. Its been 1 year and seven Months of our relationship and I can promise myself that I love this man with all my heart, and whenever I try to imagine my life without him, my future dissapears. The only problem is, I am Asian. My ancestors derive from south east Asia. My boyfriend is mixed black, native American and German. It just crushes my heart how his family accepts me with wide open arms, taking me in to their family like their blood child. And yet my family, without even trying to get to know him, couldnt stand looking at him. They look down at him because hes part black. And they beleive that, like every stereotypical black family, I wouldnt be cared for as well if we chose to marry, Id be beaten half to death and enslaved under his feet. They beleive that my Decision in seeing a future with him is disgusting. That my blood is now tainted and I am not a pure race anymore. For a while my mother called me a whore for loving a man outside of my race. They have disowned me and sent me out of state to stay away from him but all it did was make us stronger. Hes not the man my family thinks he is. Rather than enslaving me, he takes his time to massage my feet after a long day of walking in heels. Rather than abusing me he kisses every bruise and cuts on my body after my clumsy self get into accidents. Rather than ignoring me he would rather sit all day listening to me rant my heart out and give me the best advices. Hes all I could ask for. But my heart breaks when I see his face melt into sadness. He knows hes not accepted in my family. He knows that he never will be and it hurts him because hes never done anything wrong to deserve it. It hurts me too. After high school I plan to go to college, and to give us a happy life. But deep down inside I feel torn. How could the people who raised you and claim that they love you, couldnt even accept you for who you are? They made it clear to me; if you begin a life with this man, dont come back. We will have nothing to do with you. The reason why I post this status isnt just to vent my feelings, but to ask for advice. Im just teeneager on a page with many people who probably have experienced this before. How do you handle this? How long does it take until your family could accept things the way they are? Or did you just leave some behind, thinking that if they love you as much as they say you do, your decision in whom you love shouldnt even be a problem to begin with? I look forward to the reponses. Thank you.
Posted on: Sun, 01 Dec 2013 19:11:05 +0000
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