FanQ: Repost by megs I have a daughter who is just over a year old and I am supposed to go back to work. My SO says that I should stay home (we are financially well off and I am able to stay home) but I want financial independence. He says that he will give me money whenever I ask him, but I dont want to have to ask or beg for money when I want to go for lunch with my friends or for coffee, or grocery shopping, etc. We opened a bank account that he can transfer $ into and he says that he will transfer some over whenever I need it. So far in the past month he has put $200 in it, but when I asked him to put another $50 in it so I can pay my phone bill he asked what happened to the $200?!. I bought some groceries and paid my student loan with it and have $28 left of that $200. I told him that I want to go back to work in order to maintain my own bills or would like to have a fixed amount to be put in that account every month so I can pay my bills independently. He says that he wants to just pay my bills and he cant promise how much he can put in each month cause different bills come out at different times of the month (which I understand). My idea was that each paycheck that he gets (biweekly), after the bills that are due at that time are paid in full, that whatever is leftover to put 1/3 in that account for me to go grocery shopping, baby supply shopping, spending money, etc. he says that he cant promise that as he wants to be able to go out for lunch sometimes. I told him that he is being selfish as Im not asking for 1/2, but only 1/3 and I will be raising our daughter 24/7/365 and I dont get holidays, Im up at least 3-4 times a night with her, I bathe her, dress her, brush her teeth, I clean the whole house, cook all the meals and take care of our pets, I wash the cars, I do the laundry, I take out the trash... I do everything. He does help out when he can, mostly on weekends, but he is tired once he comes home from work and just wants to sit at the computer or tv and then go to bed at 10. What are your thoughts? Do you think 1/3 of the left over gravy money is too much to ask for? Too little? I just want outsider advice and opinions please. Any advice would be great!
Posted on: Tue, 15 Oct 2013 20:27:28 +0000
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