Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven. Forgiveness is the economy of the heart... forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits. With the above quotation, i am here to plea to Fatai consider my brother Nafius letter of apologise. Forgiveness means overlooking the sin or transgression, and restoring a bond of love. It does not mean justifying the offensive action or accepting it as right, nor does it mean justifying one’s own anger or sinful reaction. Forgiveness means laying aside our judgments of the other person and our own sinful reactions, and accepting others for who they are. God’s forgiveness of us and our sins against Him is unconditional and absolute. God does not reject us, objectify us, or bear anger or resentment against us. These are, I think, our projections onto God of our own issues and judgments against ourselves when we sin. God does not punish us. Rather, by alienating ourselves from God, we punish ourselves and ascribe this punishment to Him. We turn in on ourselves in anger and self-hatred, and thus shatter our personhood, cutting ourselves off from His love. Forgiveness and reconciliation can lead to a stronger bond than previously existed. Each time an offense occurs, we can learn more about both the other and ourselves. This can lead to a deeper knowledge and understanding of each by the other, and thus can also lead to a more authentic bond of intimacy. Reconciliation should always be the goal. Why feel unable to reconcile to put forgiveness and restore your relationship. If he has severely abused you , it may not be wise to do so. Or perhaps he is gone or dead. You can still forgive him, pray for him, and accept him if only at a distance. You need to look at what is in yourself that prevents you from reconciling ? Is it the fear or expectation of the other? But it is crucial remember that forgiveness is only fulfilled in reconciliation. Think wisely as an old man like you should not ignored the apologise of other because you may not know that you are going to leave this world sooner. Thank you.
Posted on: Fri, 28 Mar 2014 22:32:32 +0000
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