From the Language of Letting Go, by Melanie Beatty Balance Strive for balanced expectations of others. Strive for healthy tolerance. In the past, we may have tolerated too much or too little. We may have expected too much or too little. We may swing from tolerating abuse, mitreatment, and deception to refusing to tolerate normal, human, imperfect behavors from people. Although its preferable not to remain in either extreme too long, that is how people change--real people who struggle imperfectly toward better lives, improved relationships, and more effective relationship behaviors. But if we are open to ourselves and to the recovery process, we will, at some time, begin another transition: It becomes time to move away from extremes, toward balance. We can trust ourselves and the recovery process to bring us to a balanced place of tolerance, giving, understanding and expectations--of ourselves and others. We can each find our own path to balance as we begin and continue recovery. Today, I will practice acceptance with myself and others for the way we change. If I have had to swing to the other extreme of a behavior I will accept that as appropriate, for a time. But I will make my goal one of balanced tolerance and expectations of myself and others. https://youtube/watch?v=pFq1eT9tMJ4
Posted on: Sun, 21 Dec 2014 22:05:43 +0000