George and Louise Fraumanns Hidden Secret Tip for Marriage... One last post about my family. In the culture of my family, the s-e-x word was never brought up. Both of my parents were modest people (my mother extrodinarily so) and to be REALLY demonstrative somebody might shake hands. (a bit of an exaggeration there--but not by much). When my father hugged my mother in front of me, my mother would ALWAYS say, George, not in front of the children. But when you are NOT in front of the children, being externally modest does not mean there is not HEAT. The Detroit Suburbs around 1958 (I am eight) (and with TRUE apologies to my grandmother who had a hard life full of disappointments and that DOES change you.) My father has been overseas for some months and wires my mother to fly to New York City so they can spend a weekend together before he comes back to Detroit. I remember my grandmother saying to my mother, This is RIDICULOUS. George needs to see his children. My mother was STEAMED. She faced down my grandmother. She said, OH NOOOOO. George Fraumann needs to see his WIFE!!!! I remember thinking (????) How about that? My parents think that their friendship is more important than well...ME? I am not sure exactly HOW I said it to myself but in that moment I realized that I was NOT THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE. And the strange thing is ...that I lived. My little ego was not crushed. I actually went on with life. And later on in High School when I had already learned about da boides and de buzzing of de bees, sometimes I would come home later and the cars were in the driveway, and the lights were off, and the doors were LOCKED. I was hip enough to know not to ring the buzzer. I would walk away and I remember saying to myself... GOOD. Now and then I come across somebody who tells me with a smarmy smile that ALL vacations should be FAMILY vacations. That... the children must come first. Well. Maybe they are right. But...maybe not. I am sure there were better marriages than the marriage of George and Louise Fraumann in this world. There are alot of people. But I have never seen a better marriage. It might be JUST FINE...if the children know that their parents have their OWN thing going and that they are NOT the center of the universe. I think that. I do not always say it. (((BUT I DO ALWAYS SAY IT WHEN I AM DOING MARRIAGE COUNSELING))). Maybe, just maybe, everybody would be better off ---including the kids---if the husband and wife worked a little harder on the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Maybe (maybe it CANT be done...that is different)...but maybe a boyfriend and girlfriend vacation can be arranged. AND...hey...why not? If Victoria Secret stuff makes the deal more appealing...knock yourself out. It is the best money we married folk never wasted.
Posted on: Sat, 02 Nov 2013 19:13:43 +0000
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