Godly marriage Disagreement in relationships and marriages are going to happen. Here are 5 ground rules to have them as amicably as possible. 5 More to come! Fair Disagreeing: Ground rules Remain calm. Try not to overreact to difficult situations. By remaining calm it is more likely that others will consider your viewpoint. Express feelings in words, not actions. If you start to feel so angry or upset that you feel you may lose control, take a time out and do something to help yourself feel calm: take a walk, do some deep breathing, play with the dog, write in your journal- whatever works for you. Be specific about what is bothering you. Vague complaints are hard to work on. Deal with only one issue at a time. Dont introduce other topics until each is fully discussed. This avoids the kitchen sink effect where people throw in all their complaints while not allowing anything to be resolved. No hitting below the belt. Attacking areas of personal sensitivity creates an atmosphere of distrust, anger, and vulnerability.
Posted on: Mon, 10 Mar 2014 17:33:42 +0000