Great Read.... Ahh, to be a woman! Powerful, beautiful, regal, feminine, divine. Okay, so we’re not all these things, but we’d like to be, or like to think ourselves to be these things, or perhaps wish in the darkest places of our hearts to be these things. It was once thought that all women longed for was a happy marriage, kids, and a home to call their own. In the past, this was the role a woman was seen fulfilling, that of homemaker, mom, and supportive wife. Women have come a long way since then, obtaining careers as doctors, cops, astronauts, lawyers, professional race car drivers, just to name a few. No field is too ambitious, no challenge too great for the woman who so desires to achieve it. But what about the role of a wife? Have all of these achievements for womankind made the traditional role of loving Mother, understanding wife, and the desire to be protected obsolete? I think not. Women today are caught in a quagmire. While having the world at their feet and so many different options to chose from, a woman might be made to feel that she has settled if she allows herself to fall back into the traditional role of a wife instead of claiming all that has been fought for over the years regarding womans rights. In order to achieve supreme happiness in a marriage, a woman must first understand who she is as a woman. Despite the leaps and bounds made regarding a womans place in society, these things do not change the fact that God made women especially loving, understanding, caring, and compassionate in order to fulfill their divine role as a wife, mother, and daughter of God. In fully grasping her true nature, she will then be able to understand where her true power lies and all she is capable of achieving. A woman should go back to her roots when she is contemplating her role as a wife. Those roots are elucidated by seeing what her divine nature is. A divine nature, given to us by God, is a powerful tool in life because it is fortified and backed up by God himself. So then, what is a womans divine nature? A woman is strong. She is not strong in the sense that a man is strong but rather through her benevolence, love, perspicacity, and understanding of emotional need. She is strong in her ability to dictate her own actions, despite what is going on around her. If a woman wants to be dissatisfied, nothing in the world will change her mind. I remember a time when my husband brought me a beautiful gift as an apology for something he had done. Despite being touched, I refused to accept it, determined as I was to have things my way. Yet if a woman wants to be loving or compassionate, she is unstoppable in her chosen course. It is a womans love that often times is needed to break through someones pain where nothing else would work. It is through this strength that a woman has the greatest power to succeed in a marriage. Once she understands that her strength lies NOT in querulous tones, and bellicosity, but instead in her ability to understand the needs of those around her, then she will be able to use that feminine efficaciousness to achieve her goals. No more is the woman trying to compete with her husband in his role as the head of the home, but instead she is able to realize her power to softly influence her husband’s decisions, acting instead as his companion and support; oftentimes having more power to influence and achieve her own way simply by supporting him in his. Despite what is popular today, a womans strength lies in her womanhood. A marriage is comprised of two parts; the male and the female. When women started to make advancements in the workforce, a strange thing occurred: they began to act more manly, thus changing the dynamics in many modern relationships. Instead of having the interdependent parts of Yin and Yang that are man and woman, women began to act like men thus causing more competition in a marriage, and less cohesiveness. The next thing a woman must do to successfully fulfill her role of a wife and be content while doing so is to learn to be dependent upon no other human being. The fairytale story of a couple who need no one else but each other sounds romantic and ideal but it is missing a huge factor for complete happiness: stability. We aren’t perfect, and we shouldn’t pretend we are. A marriage is a partnership, but if we solely rely upon the other person we are in harm’s way of getting our hearts broken, making unwise choices, or ultimately becoming someone we do not like, if they ever falter. And they are human, so they WILL make mistakes at times. If we then continue to pattern our choices upon false ideas we are in essence building a house of cards. The answer to this dilemma is to become solely reliant upon God. God is omniscient, and as long as we are working on serving Him, we will be doing the right thing in all of the roles we play in life, even if other people think otherwise. This resolution to serve God and no one else comes with a price. That price is constant humility and willingness to look at our own actions and determine if they are correct. And being willing to change them if they are not. Happiness in marriage, and particularly in the role of a wife, is a very achievable goal. All it takes is willingness to see strength in the things that much of society calls weak: devotion, kindness, sympathy, femininity, and our true desire to turn to God above all other things, even if needs be our own spouse. Serenity will abound in the woman who knows who she is and where to turn for peace, and through that serenity she will have the power to help create the fairytale story relationship that many women dream about.
Posted on: Mon, 17 Mar 2014 04:23:42 +0000
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