Has anyone ever felt like youre out of a group, your class, the norm? Being out of a social norm can definitely be intimidating. i mean, who are you without the social security of the majority? Many a times, we conform to the what is deemed normal, or even correct on the basis of majoritys perception. Such a way of thinking can be argued as a root cause of many psychological problems, especially for teenagers like us. I remember when i was year 1 and 2, where i just came to realise that i dont really fit into normal social trends (e.g. while others go out in cliques, id tend to stay at home and watch National Geographic Channel). Things were perceivably quite tough, was pretty much ostracised and everything. Not to mention that i was kinda depressed about the way i worked, or why is it that i couldnt change naturally to someone that my immediate social circle would approve of.. After a few stupid attempts of suicide (lol dun freak out, many of us go through this phase) and subsequent transition to year 3 and 4, i realised that being out of the norm does not necessarily mean failure in life. I was extremely lucky to have a class of very inclusive (albeit judgy ~_~) people, people that welcomed weirdness. Guess you could say that we were a weird class, full of weird people, but thats what made class life sooo fun back then. It was not too long ago i realised that i wasnt actually fully acknowledging my inability to conform. Knowing its perennial presence is one thing, but to fully embrace eccentricity is another. So i guess this confession is something like the start of me fully accepting my quirkiness as being simply part of me, being someone special. And knowing that it is no longer the external impressions of others that govern my actions, thoughts, and lifestyle made it all the more empowering. To all the weird ones out there! I empathise what you are going through! its definitely not easy being an odd ball, and the detriments of being ostracised or mocked is very real. I cant tell you that it will get better 100%, because the real world out there can be even more heartless than the sheltered environment we have in RV. But what i can tell you is that life will get better once you stop allowing all derogatory terms that came from other people (or sometimes yourself) from flowing into your mind. That thing really is like a toxic chemical that eludes you from the clarity you had of who you are. Life will get better once you believe it so. To the ones currently following the norm, yet feeling extremely uncomfortable! If you truly feel like this, i encourage you to take a leap of faith and be the person that you are truly comfortable with. It may not be a smooth transition initially, but ultimately the true you will attract amazing people that will genuinely appreciate and love you for who you are. And for the ones who are totally fine. Stay fine! But beyond the satisfaction of your own personal social security, it would be totally awesome to understand and reach out to the ones that are socially awkward, or just different in personalities etc. Sometimes, it really means alot to them. :) Now that ive ranted what I want to say...back to being weird! [P.S. isnt it strange like this confession about being weird pops out of nowhere amidst all the posts about subject combi and ties and swings? Weird right? haha!]
Posted on: Tue, 22 Oct 2013 08:38:02 +0000
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