Hi Zane..... I have been in a relationship with my fiance for about 6 years now. We have two kids together. Our relationship isnt the best and isnt horrible either. As for any relationship. The problem I have with him are insecurities. Im in my early twenties and I dont go out with friends to have margaritas or anything. Simply because of his attitude. I will let him know two weeks prior, that some of my co-workers want to go out for drinks and karaoke. The day of he will walk around the house not saying anything to me. Then eventually im home for the evening. He knows my co-workers and everything. He says its ok but his actions tells another story. Another problem is Facebook. I have a page to keep in touch with family home in New Orleans and for my sister, stationed overseas. I sit in chat with them while hes seating beside me. If i scroll down my newsfeed and he see a video that was shared but originally posted by a guy. Hes like who that is? It has gotten so bad. Earlier today I friended his cousin and showed him. He flipped out and told me I had no business doing that. I was shocked! I could understand if I did things without him knowing but before I made an account with Facebook I asked im about it and he said it was ok. MY RESPONSE: A lot of people will assume that your man is cheating on you and trying to deflect attention off himself. I do not automatically believe that because I know a lot of handsome, successful insecure men who are not cheating but are actually insecure. I would not lose my relationship over Facebook. That I can tell you for sure. However, you are entitled to have a life outside of him. Go out with your coworkers and do you and let him get used to that. But you need to also be cognizant of his buttons and try not to push them. After six years, you should know what those are, and it should work both ways. He needs to try not to push your buttons either. Basically, the two of you need to have a grown-up conversation to determine what the underlying issues are in your situation and try to work them out. Asl him why he is so insecure and does he really believe that you would cheat. Ask him why he feels disrespected as a man simply because you want to experience life outside of him and the kids. How is you going out with coworkers any different than him going over a friends house to watch a game or him going to a sports bar to watch one? I think you will be fine because six years and two kids is not something you let go over speculation alone. Good luck.
Posted on: Mon, 24 Nov 2014 12:33:10 +0000
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