Hi Zane! Please keep my name anonymous. I am 25 years old currently living in Raleigh, North Carolina. Ive been sending you a lot of emails throughout these past couple of months. Anyways I need some much needed advice from you. Ive been struggling throughout my whole entire life dealing with people, especially my peers. I come from a highly dysfunctional family on both sides. All I ever wanted was to be blessed with good people in my life. I have a few good friends, but they are distance away or they do not like to do the things I like to do or would like to, as far as going out to a nice club, which I have never been or staying out all night having fun meaning being outside having a good time acting silly. They are so laid back. I am starting to get bored with them. I do not want to lose them. I just want to enjoy my younger years because I have never experienced it. I feel so incomplete. I guess I do expect high expectations from people. I never really had good friends growing up and my family is no different. My childhood was okay, not so many good memories. I was always the outcast because I was different. I am disabled, well mentally. I have a learning disability. I was in both special and regular classes. I guess that is why my peers didnt want to associated themselves with me and my family would pick on me mainly in front strangers, friends etc... I feel so empty inside like I do not have a purpose in life. My heart hurts badly. It is so much more to my story. I have been through so much. Losing a parent, three siblings not having any real friends etc. Ms. Zane, I feel so lost. I just want to die. I hate waking up each and everyday faking the funk. I am so alone, no one to talk to about my problems. I wish I was bless to have good female friends around my age, but most black females cannot be trusted smh.... Sorry! I know my email is all over the place. I am crying because my heart hurts. Sorry!!!! (Lost soul needed to vent)..... MY RESPONSE: First, I would not say that most women cannot be trusted, regardless of their race. In fact, I disagree. Most women just want to live a peaceful existence and have good relationships with friends and family. The messy ones block their own blessings but I believe that most females have a good heart and a lot of people make assumptions before giving them a chance. The same goes for most men because so many women are bitter that a lot of men dont stand a shot. With that being said, you are contradicting yourself by saying that you want to enjoy your youth in one sentence and saying that you do not want to live in the next. That is not going to solve a thing. You live in Raleigh and there are plenty of activities you can attend. Forget waiting for your current friends. Go out and meet new ones. We are what we attract. Go out and spark up conversations with people. Join the group that I post a link for and go to some of the events and do not be narrow-minded. Mix and mingle with both men and women of ALL RACES. Everyone breaths and bleeds the same and enjoy the same activities and conversations. You have to be proactive in your own destiny is what I am saying. I have conversations with total strangers all the time AND I enjoy them. You have to put forth the effort to meet new people and you are not in a small town. Go do the things you enjoy and you will meet people who also enjoy doing those things. Thats the only reason they would be there. Good luck. meetup/RDUSingles/
Posted on: Sun, 30 Nov 2014 00:04:43 +0000
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