How Long Can You Stay Like That?! Have you ever bent over backwards in order to please someone only to find out at a certain point that it is impossible to continually keep them happy? Well heres the thing, if you are willing to bend over backwards to please people then you need really to be able to stay in your awkward position indefinitely......because if you make a habit of acting like this to please others then they will often expect it of you and get bent out of shape if and when you quit, complaining of an ache in your spine ;-) So my point really is, if you are happy to do a certain thing for a certain person then great, but if you do things for others because you feel obliged to then before too long youll get fed up. If bending over is fun for you then great, if youre flexible and happy enough to keep it up then wonderful, youll be happy and its likely that so will the person you are helping. But if you are contorting yourself in an effort to help another because you feel obliged then it will end in tears....probably yours! So the next time you feel like putting yourself out for someone else you can ask yourself whether you truly, happily want to do it or you feel like you must.....and l am not suggesting you never do anything because it will purely help another. What l am saying is if you make a habit of it youll end up unhappy and youll likely blame them when really youre in the driving seat....And it can be helpful to ask yourself if your behaviour is sustainable, whether you can keep it up if the recipient of your actions expects you to do so....In other words only bend over backwards if you can (and want to) stay like that! Wishing you well, Zofie
Posted on: Sun, 27 Jul 2014 20:35:18 +0000
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