How To Be A Gentleman In The Modern World We all want to be treated, we all want to feel cared for and we are all tired of people ignoring the world around them. “Chivalry is dead” is something I often hear, and that saddens me. I think we can definitely reignite the lost art of being chivalrous by adapting it to fit the mor modern day. Lets creat how to be chivalrous, or a chivalrous code for the modern man. We can call it the gentleman’s code for the modern world. The Medieval Knights Code Did you know that chivalry is the code developed for royal knights in medieval times. It was the code by which all knighted persons lived by, it was the medieval man’s code. It governed how knights were to love, who they were to protect and how they were suppose to live. They put god, their partner, all other people, and their fellow knights before them selves. They were to serve a lady, then after her all other ladies. Respect their fellow man, never lie, and to be representative of true culture. They were appointed “employees” of their king and were in trusted to uphold society through customs, manners, and costume. They where the illusion of a heroic being, full of dignity and honour, of wisdom, and, at all events, of courtesy. The knights of medieval times where the men that all others looked up to; they where the ones who dressed the best, had the best manners and where the most respected in society. This is something I feel we can all strive for. In our modern society of wanting all things quickly and with no hesitation we should take a step back, and focus on bringing these ideas back into society. The ideas of old, around chivalry and how to act in society is still very valid but we should develop a more current and modern version. As well I feel that our society has evolved and this code should be inclusive of all, there for I propose The Gentleman’s Code of conduct. A document that will grow and become so much more than just an idea a way to carry ones self and to become the best a person can be. The Gentleman’s Code of Conduct Be punctual Perhaps the greatest sign of respect, which is what a gentleman is all about, is being on time. Having people wait for you is the equivalent of telling them that you don’t care about them. Shake hands firmly Your handshake should mirror your personality. You want the other person to think of you as someone resolved, concrete and positive. But it shouldn’t be a test of your strength; don’t hurt them. (Your grip should be the same for women.) Apply constant verbal grace Use “excuse me” or “I beg your pardon” for all occasions. An extension of politeness, you should always use these expressions, whether it’s to get someone to move out of your way, to apologize for your upcoming journey to the men’s room, or simply to signal your interlocutors that you’re about to start a sentence. Project high moral values Even if you know that deep down you’re not, appear as if you were virtuous. A real gentleman always comes out of everything smelling like a rose.- In addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen (in training) should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come. Always open doors This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other. Put on her coat Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action. Help with her seat If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.Give up your seat. If a lady arrives at the table, and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her. Stand at attention Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should. Give her your arm. When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground — especially if she’s wearing high heels. Ask if she needs anything This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs. Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble, and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity, and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire . If you have questions about any of these codes, feel free to leave a commit, or if you would like to add on as a gentleman code also leave a commit for discussion.
Posted on: Sun, 25 Aug 2013 21:15:07 +0000
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