I JUST HAD TO REMIND MYSELF That I do not need to get upset whatever anyone else does. I was woken up by long and protracted yelling, in the end I did not know if there was a fire, so I went downstairs and opened the door. Someone across the hallway had gone out without his keys. No he did not know the phone number of his flatmates? Do I believe that? No not for an instant! Would I give him my key so he could go downstairs and yell up to wake his flatmates who are downstairs (its a complicated building. I decided no, I would go down with him We got downstairs, he yelled up, they woke, then they had a yelling argument - so I guess any and all in this building, babies and children are now awake.. I said enough they can argue when he gets upstairs. He is waking everyone. (over 110 units in this building, and almost all of them face into the courtyard. We got back up and his front door was not yet open, gee they may have needed to go to the loo. BTW there was no thank you, or sorry I woke you, or anything other than I cant help it, I have an important meeting (on Sunday at 2omn) I opened my door and asked him to wait, not to keep banging the door .... he yelled F... YOU at me. He is a grown up supposedly Uni student, living in a different country ... so presumably his parents think he is grown up enough to let him do that. WHY AM I TELLING YUU THIS? No, not so you get angry, or protective, but rather as a reminder, that somewhere along the path we each have to take responsibility for ourselves. If I am going to sit and write Facebook posts saying this, then I darn well biter practise what I say ... However some deep breathing and reminding myself this is really his problem that if he expects to function and keep a job he will have to do some quick growing up (he does look old enough to be doing further studies,) He will not be able to keep throwing temper tantrums. So, I am grateful to the Universe for reminding me that sometimes, I still get upset when others do what they do. I got upset. And yes, a copy of this is going to the building manager, as my upsetting or not is not he issue, the issue is there are old people and babies in this building, and it is unacceptable to behave without consideration for others. That he knocked on his door to try to wake his flatmates is fine, that he then continued the yelling and banging when it was no longer necessary, is a total lack of consideration. I wonder if he will be grateful for my writing to the building manager ;)
Posted on: Sun, 23 Nov 2014 01:23:30 +0000