I am so grateful for the opportunity that God has given me in giving back and helping people deal with issues in their lives. Last night was a great night of openness and vulnerability as I taught. We looked at one of the greatest Biblical examples of Reconciliation in the model of Joseph when he was reconciled to his brothers who werent so nice to him. I continued to share about the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. We looked at what it means to CONFRONT in love and to COVER in love which have nothing to do with sweeping stuff under the rug. (So sad that many do, there is no real freedom in hiding) These are the two primary guidelines in dealing with and resolving conflict. It was quiet when I shared about, what do you do when you’ve been deeply or repeatedly betrayed. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean that we immediately grant access on the same level of relationship to the one who hurt us. Being forgiven, restored, and trusted is wonderful, but it’s also important for the offenders to understand that their attitude and actions will affect the process of rebuilding trust and being reconciled. Words alone are not enough to restore trust in major issues. What are some of the signs or fruit of true repentance. What should we look for, before we begin the process of reconciliation. The first and most important step is to CONFIRM whether the offender is genuinely repentant broken over what happened. (Luke 17:3) One thing to look for is an unrepentant offender will be offended by a need to confirm the genuineness of their repentance. May even use line of manipulation to make you feel guilty for even asking such as, such as, you just want to rub it in my face dont you? Youre not the Christian I thought you were, I thought Christians forgive and have compassion.”That doesnt help heal does it? Don’t be tricked into avoiding the step of confirming the authenticity of their confession and repentance. What kind of fruit to look for in genuine confession (sorry its long but hope it helps you). 1- Accepts full responsibility for their actions... 2- Accepts accountability from others... 3- Does not continue in the same behavior... 4- Does not have a defensive attitude about being wrong... 5- Does not have a light attitude toward the pain and hurt caused... 6- Does not take exception to doubts about the sincerity or the need to demonstrate that sincerity... 7- Makes restitution wherever necessary...Its important to for the offender to understand, forgiveness does not necessarily release them from the responsibility of repairing the damages caused by their actions. Happy Tuesday Everyone. So grateful to give back... Again, sorry its so long but I pray it helps heal and moves you forward from forgiveness to reconciliation!!!
Posted on: Tue, 21 Oct 2014 14:55:03 +0000
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