I dont usually say much on Facebook but since the forum is open.... This past year has been particularly difficult for me. First losing my brother a year ago, and then having my husband end up in the hospital with end stage renal failure, to continuing to plan and help make my daughters wedding be everything she wanted, and then watching my husbands daily life change in an instant when he started dialysis. The wedding was a success and the amount of joy Scot and I had being a part of it and joining our family with our son-in-law and his family cant be described as anything less than joyous! To top it off we recently found out we will be grandparents in January and we are so excited. In regards to the other events here is what I have learned and realized. Ive learned to grieve everyday whether silently, publicly, with tears or with laughter. Ive realized that I grieve more for those around me; my mother who lost her son, my sister-in-law who lost her husband and my nephews who lost their father. I worry about each and every one of them and the impact it has had on their life. I find myself grieving and thinking about those around me, like the childhood friend whose parents were never there for her growing up, or the high school classmate who lost her son in an accident or for those Facebook friends that I dont know that well but are struggling. Losing my brother and watching my husbands life change on a dime has made me more emotional and opened up my eyes to being sympathetic and aware of peoples daily struggles. I realized that it isnt that people dont care what is going on in your life or others its just that because they arent exposed to it on a daily basis they are unaware. Out of sight out of mind! When Scot started dialysis and our life changed and feelings of being overwhelmed started to settle in I called my sister in law. I was feeling guilty, questioning did I do everything I could have when my brother was in pain, when his family was faced with upheaval day to day. Did I call enough, listen enough, visit enough, send a card, say how can I help? She assured me I had but I still wonder. I realize that even the strongest of men who continue to go about their days as if nothing is wrong become weak mentally and physically. They are troubled with thoughts from everything to how they are affecting their family to what others may think about their decisions. People arent looking for sympathy, pity or handouts. They just want to know that people are praying for them, thinking of them and will be there for the no matter what the outcome. Lastly I have realized to pray more and take more time to check in with others, see how they are and let them know I was thinking about them. Life can change on a dime for all of us.
Posted on: Sat, 16 Aug 2014 00:41:44 +0000
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