I had an old friend reach out to me today and my heart was heavy knowing what she was dealing with. She asked me to share with her how I managed things. After I sent her a response and received her reply I thought that I would share a portion of what I shared with her because there might be someone else that could benefit from it or that needed to hear it: 1. At one time I had my whole life planned out and then this crazy thing happened... LIFE! I never imagined being a 36 yr old single mom of 4 starting a new career (not by choice), and trying to find MYSELF~ but I am and so I deal with a smile on my face! 2. EVERYDAY matters ~ some days are better than others but we have to remind ourselves that each day is a new day; a new day to reach toward our goals, one step closer to our future, and one step closer to making our past a mere memory/lesson! 3. Experts say that however long you were married you need half of that amount of time to heal regardless if it was your decision for the divorce! I was married 12 years and 6 years seems like a far stretch but the closer I get to it Ive realized I needed the time! 4. You have a choice to make every morning when you step out of bed- do you want to be happy or do you want to be miserable? Its your choice and you should never allow anyone the power to make that choice for you! So what do you choose???? I choose happiness! ~ 5. Ive had to force myself to choose my kids and myself over all others however it is the RIGHT choice! 6. If anyone makes you feel guilty for bettering yourself (stopping drinking, getting in shape, new job, going to school, etc) eliminate them! I made a decision that was a hard one.... Sometimes we love and care for people that wont agree with our choices so I then make the choice to only allow them so far into my life! I wont allow their negativity to hinder my progress! Its called loving them from afar! 7. Its important that youre honest with your children however children DO NOT need to know ALL of the details regarding the divorce, your dating life or relationships! Kids are curious and will worry so its ok to share that you are dating but Ive made the choice for my children to not meet guys I date until Im ready. In 4 years of dating my children have met one man. Im not judging those that do introduce I just know whats right for my kids! My kids love people and easily become attached and I dont want them to become attached to someone that I will eventually remove from their lives. Everyones children are different make the right choices for your kids! 8. Lastly.... LIVE! Dont put your life on hold~ live out loud, boldly, and colorfully! On the weekends you dont have your kids dont sit at home alone grieving instead do the things youve always wanted to do; travel, see museums, go to concerts, visit old friends, take a class of interest, dance, etc. LIVE YOUR LIFE~ LOVE YOUR LIFE
Posted on: Wed, 08 Oct 2014 01:31:01 +0000
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