I have a high moral compass, principles, rules that I feel should be followed, mostly based on how they make me feel example I would never give grace marks to a person who disrespects the elderly or the disabled, or doesn’t speak politely to a child but at the same time I might not hold it against them, I will try and rationalise that behaviour hoping to provide me a greater insight into their personality because no person is truly bad...or are they? In my trying to gain a greater perspective is where I realise that you can’t put people in a box...there is no such thing as a dumb blonde or an akhrot pathan. To me the core remains the same always, our outlook changes, our expectations change, our mannerism changes, our ability to accept things and react to them changes...over time or experience or simply in a different situation. I would hate being put in a box, I don’t want to be labelled a working woman. Yes I am a woman and yes I work but it is not necessary that those properties that we attribute to working women should exist in me. I like to dress up as ordinary woman do I just don’t do it too often, I gush at a cute guy but I don’t show it...I speak of feminism but I don’t hate the man...I don’t blame the man either. I fail to understand why we can’t see people as they are? Why do they have to be labelled, first as men and women and then by marital status, religious inclination, occupation? What does all this tell us about the person? Nothing absolutely nothing. It is a mere waste of time, but yet this is how we associate with people. I find that condescending. I am more than all that, nobody else has lived my life and known what I have made out of it? And vice versa! How can you possibly know who I am from my labels? How can you know what I aspire to be? Or what gives me joy? How can you? We spend our entire lives living up to these labels, If I am a woman I have to act like one! If I work I have to be strong and independent...mushy and dependant doesn’t fit the bill. If I am religious I have to dress and play the part! Isn’t it sad? That instead of living our lives doing things that give us joy we spend a larger chunk of it playing the part, the part that has been set out for us, may it be by choice or by chance! - Anonymous contributor.
Posted on: Mon, 05 Aug 2013 13:32:35 +0000
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