I have found that a focus on control only leads to a power struggle. I look to the heart of what he is doing and draw limits in a way that gives hkm control while getting what I want. For example we were at a park yesterday and he took off when he saw balloons at a 1st birthday party. I did not scream for him to stop. I followed him over and sat at one of the picnic tables with him while he hugged a balloon. Once I could get eye contact, I explained that he was not invited to the party and he could not have a balloon. He whinned and I reminded him that he could choose to be happy even without a balloon. When he still wanted to stay, I asked him if he was ready to go home. I said we could go home or play at he park nearby. Then, he choose to go back to the park on his own accord. I was calm, happy and there were no tantrjms or meltdowns. Afterall, he got the choice he wanted.
Posted on: Tue, 16 Jul 2013 02:59:39 +0000
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