I learn a lot about a person when I snap at them. And I do tend to snap at people when I am stressed out -- but I am very quick on the apology because I know darned well that I was wrong. When I know I am wrong, I torture myself. I can still tell you the cruel things I did in 6th grade. When I snap, and apologize, and you are gracious, you prove to me that you are safe to be real with. When I snap, and apologize, and you proceed to chew me out when I already feel like dirt, you prove to me that I have to put up my guard around you. Its important that we are willing to allow people to be real. Real people have bad days, bad moments that they wish they could take back and they prove it by humbling themselves and apologizing. And no matter how wrong we are, apologizing hurts. Its a risk. Apologizing is an act of love -- it says, You didnt deserve what I did to you. Apologizing says more about a persons character than the snap does. the snap happens in an instant, the apology is something that takes an act of will. The snap doesnt say anything about how that person really feels about you, but the apology does. The apology says, You are worth it. By accepting someones apology you tell them, I do not expect perfection from you, its safe to be real.
Posted on: Fri, 04 Apr 2014 11:52:40 +0000
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