“I lost a baby in the middle of my 2nd trimester. I became depressed and must’ve lost weight, because over the next few months several people commented approvingly on how thin I looked. The irony of being complimented on my thinness during a time when I should have been full and round with the new life growing inside of me was almost too bitter to bear and more than once brought me to tears. I never felt very comfortable commenting on people’s weight before, but this experience really cemented it for me.” “I was always confident in my body, raised to value my intelligence and personality over my appearance. It wasn’t until I lost 20 pounds following a bad breakup that I began to understand the body insecurities that others dealt with. Having girls tell me I ‘looked like a model!’ or that they were ‘omg sooo jealous!’ made me feel like my body before the weight loss was less attractive. I felt this urge to keep the weight off even though I felt awful and was completely unhealthy. It just goes to show how even someone with good self-esteem can be brought down by ‘innocent’ comments.” So friends, if you know someone who has lost weight and they aren’t publicly speaking about how they did it, don’t talk about it. Don’t automatically praise them. Don’t post on their photos with “you look so skinny!” Just don’t. Because you don’t know if they are working out and eating healthfully or depressed, sick, suffering with an eating disorder, or resorting to other unhealthy extremes to fit an unhealthy ideal. You just don’t know. We can do so much better than the constant body policing. We are more than bodies – so much more! beautyredefined.net/when-you-look-so-skinny-does-more-harm-than-good/
Posted on: Fri, 01 Aug 2014 15:37:24 +0000
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