I love you! My favorite book is Addicted! Excited for the movie!!! But I have this problem Im 23 yrs old & 4 months pregnant with my 1st child. The man Im pregnant by is well-known singer in the music industry. so he does get around. So i dont know why I thought being in a relationship with me would make him a better man. But he already has 4 kids & he has been in & out of a relationship with 1 of his childs mother so I wasnt surprise when I found out he was still seeing her. What pisses me off that I asked him repeatedly were they still together but he kept lying. He would basically spend the daytime (& some nights) with her & night times with me. He knew i really wasnt into social media like that except Facebook ( i did have a Instagram & twitter i just never got on then & we follow each other on both those social sites) so he never expected me to follow him. But one night i decided to go on Instagram just to see whats been going on & i come across these picture of him hanging out with his babys mother not as friends (which i dont mind for the sake of their child )but like they were lovers & him say how much he loves her & all this crap. So that was the last straw! I ended everything between us. But a month after I ended things i found out i was pregnant. Of course i told him & he told me how happy he was an how much he wanted me to keep it & how he wanted to work things out. I tried to work things out with him but while I was home he was out to events with her showing her off like a girlfriend. So I gave up. I moved from LA to my hometown Florida for a new start & be around my family which pissed him off. Now he claims that I moved to FL with a man & thats the real father & i just want him for his money & when the baby is born he wants a DNA test & if he is the father he wants shared custody & he told me if the baby is his that he would make my life a living hell & all this craziness i also found out when i start dating him he was still dating her the whole time. i thought I was the girlfriend i was really the women he was cheating on her with. My question is : what should i do? I just dont want nothing else to do with him I dont even what him to know where I live. But he does! This man has people who love & adore him & think he could do no wrong while I look like some kinda ho who wants his money & to be honest i dont even want him around me but there is a baby about to be born. Signed anonymous MY RESPONSE: I would concentrate on having a healthy child and disregard him for the moment. He has already went in and accused another man of being the father when he was clearly the one sleeping around. Once the child is born, if he wants a DNA test, give him one. If you want to prove that it is not about his money and fame, come to a mutually agreeable and reasonable child support situation that is based on what your child needs and not what he has. Just because he is famous and has some money does not mean that he gets a pass on child support altogether to prove you are not in it for the money. Make the child support half of what your reasonable monthly expenses will be for the child and leave it at that. Who cares what other people think? They were not in the bed with him or dating him. He lied to you about his situation with his ex and led you on. But you are being unreasonable by trying to cut him out the childs life altogether. You slept with him willingly and made a child with him. You make it sound like he is a good father to his other kids and he said he would be to this one until you jetted. He has to grow up as well and realize that you are entitled to move. He is not your husband and is not even your man because he is someone elses man. Either avoid him until the child is born or try to have a conversation with him about the welfare of the child without mud-slinging. Just tell him that you have no issue with getting a DNA test because it is definitely his child and that you do not want to argue with him but want to simply coparent the child without drama. If he insists on the drama, then you will have to simply take him to court and ask for a reasonable support order. P.S. For those who want to start guessing who the guy is on my page, I honestly have no idea and my response would be the same even if I did. I am not up on current singers enough to even speculate so do not email me to ask if you are right . :-)
Posted on: Sun, 06 Jul 2014 14:41:13 +0000
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