"I would further like to confirm that hatred for and rejection of the parent is anti-instinctual. I have reached this conclusion in part due to my training as a family therapist but primarily as a response to having worked for 24 years with a foster care population numbering in the thousands of children. Not one of these many children, who had been removed from their home due to adjudicated neglect and/or abuse, ever expressed hatred for her/his parents or refusal to visit. Indeed, the two most frequently asked questions were, "When can I go home" and "When is my next visit with my mom/mommy or dad/daddy?" I am therefore unequivocally certain that there is only ONE explanation as to why a child expresses hatred for and refusal to have contact with a parent: the child has been programmed by the other parent and is receiving sanctioning by that parent to reject the targeted/alienated parent. You have to be carefully taught to hate and fear---- especially a biological parent." ~Linda Gottlieb, LMFT, LCSW-r Linda is one of the most inspiring family therapist alive today! She is reunifying families and bringing alienated children back to their beloved biological parents who they had been "programmed" to hate for so many years.
Posted on: Wed, 05 Jun 2013 11:27:35 +0000