IT STARTS WITH YOU, SINGLE MOTHER. by me :-) I often find myself baffled by how our society is so quick to place the blame on the absent father. In this case, my focus is on the son in particular. The emotional and mental stability and health of a boy relies on the activity of both parents. Yes, an absent father does his damage and I will never deny that. However... What about the mother? Dont her actions play a role, too? The void of romantic relationships can create a cavity of sorts in her heart. Cavities - as we all know - are painful and we seek to get them filled as quickly as possible. But, if the filling isnt of a certain caliber, it can be just as damaging as the cavity itself. Eventually, it has to be removed and refilled. Your son sees that. He is a witness and a pupil of the type of men you allow to fill your void. If youre not careful, that boy will grow up resenting you for the type of men you allowed to be his father figures. ...or Hell grow up repeating the same patterns: creating babies, mistreating the mama, and running to you like hes the victim when she wises up and leaves. Of course, youll be mad at her. And for what? For being strong enough to do what you should have done when you were in her shoes? Yes, youll be there for him always on his side because this man is the man you raised. ....or Hell be just fine. Good, even. But that - of course - is only by his decision to surrender to Gods redemption rewarded by eternal grace and unfailing love. It starts with you, single mother. Take responsibility for your part in the mental and emotional health of your son. No, you cant teach him how to be a man but neither can the pitiful excuses of men you allow to be in his life. The type of relationships you engage in inevitably shapes the man your son becomes. Signed, A Formal Single Mother
Posted on: Fri, 26 Dec 2014 17:30:54 +0000
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