Im on a roll today, I have another topic i would like to post about. Some of you moms/dads are upset bc your SO is playing favorites with their children, Im not going to take up for them but I will try to explain why they may do this. Trust me in no way am I trying to justify their actions. Anyways here is my theory. (i will be using a BF as an example) maybe the reason the BF shows their children more attention is because they feel like they miss out on so much by not having full custody of their child. you never know when BM is going to just up and run with them or just deny you visitation and until you go to court, you pretty much have to go without visitation until court. So maybe your husbands are showing favoritism bc his children are not there as much as your children (or our children) are. They may think that because they get to show your children affection when their children are not there means they have to give extra attention to their children when they come to visit. OR maybe the are playing favoritism so the children dont go back and bad mouth him to the mother, or maybe they know at any instance the mother can start trying to alienate the children from them. These men are so scared of losing their children and not being able to see them, so sometimes you have to wonder are they really playing favoritism or is it they are just scared? As for the alienating thing, maybe the father thinks that if they show favoritism then maybe they can stop the alienating from happening. or maybe they think that with showing favoritism that no matter what the BM tries to put in the childs head, the child is already loved so much (maybe a little to much) that the BF thinks that the mother would have no chance of making the child hate the father. Again this is a theory of mine that i wanted to share. ~ Kay ~
Posted on: Sun, 27 Oct 2013 20:28:22 +0000
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