In response to a post that I made last night that might have - TopicsExpress

In response to a post that I made last night that might have gotten a bit out of hand: It is my fault!! I forget that my friends out there have never been around Wade and I, so they dont have any way of knowing how our rather miraculous marriage works!! I certainly dont want any rumors getting started or any hurt feelings, so I am going to give you a sneak-peak into the way things work between me and the ol ball-and-chain!! First and foremost, I want everyone to know that he is an wonderful husband and father, I couldnt have ordered one and chosen any better!! He is our guide, our leader, our protector, and our provider. We both came from strong, tight families and we both appreciate that. We know the importance of it and we are dedicated to providing that for our boys. We have fun!! All four of us have our own rather odd sense of humor. We pick on each other. We tease each other. We laugh...A LOT!! And this is where, sometimes, people who arent around us a lot can get the wrong idea!! Wade and I have never been the ones who sit around and profess our undying love for one another for all the world to have to listen to (we have all seen them, the Oh, smoochie-woochie!! I just love you so much that if you ever leave me, my heart will shatter in so many pieces there wont be enough Super-glue on the planet to ever put it back together!! Oh, GAG!! Shut up!!)!! Our declarations of love usually consist of me asking him on our anniversary if he wants to sign up for another year!! He has kept re-upping for 17 years now!! Let there be no mistake, he has definitely drawn the short straw on this marriage business!! I am a mess and he is the one who comes in behind me and cleans it all up!! I am not wifey-poo material. There isnt even one strand of wifey-poo DNA in my whole body. My Mom used to cook, fix my Dad a plate, and bring it to him. My approach is more like this: You are X-number years old. You know what you like and you know what you dont like, and how much you want to eat. You can cut up meat, you can spoon up vegetables, you can butter bread. If you arent capable of fixing your own plate at X-number of years, then I guess you will wither up and blow away from starvation. I am so independent I dont even think there is a word that would accurately describe how independent I am!! When he worked at KAMO, there was always some hysterical wife calling some poor husband to come home because of some silly, little something that they just couldnt begin to handle on their own. I called Wade at work ONE TIME, because someone had broken into the house while the boys and I were gone.Mind you, I had already gone through the house with a baseball bat and called the police, but I did call him to come home!! I am stubborn. Most everyone knows the story of how we wound up married, I have written at great length about that, but here is a brief synopsis for those who havent heard. He wanted to get married, I didnt. I wouldnt set a date, I wouldnt make any plans. Wade finally set the date, made all of the arrangements, bought my dress, bought my flowers...and was smart enough to take me to Eureka Springs in his pick-up with the standard transmission because he knew I wouldnt be able to escape!! SEVENTEEN YEARS, people!! He has put up with this for seventeen years!! I am cheap. When we first bought this house, I didnt like the outlet covers and switch plates...but I also didnt like what it was going to cost to replace them!! I took them all off and covered them in aluminum foil and spray-painted them gold!! All was well for a long time until once when I was plugging in an extension cord and didnt hit the holes quite right!! BOOM!! Knocked out the power to the whole back side of the house. Guess who had worked 10 hours that day, came home to a dark house, figured out the problem, fixed the problem...and never said a word to me about how dumb that was!! I am impatient. I never take time to think things through, I just come up with an idea and roll with it...right then!! I could not even tally up all of the all of the things I have disassembled and not been able to put them back together. He would come home from work and would find a pile of bolts and screws in an envelope and another pile of debris...and when he left for work that morning, it might have been a toaster or something, that I decided I could take apart and make it better!! I could tear up a cast-iron block. I could!! This is where the lawnmowers and weedeaters come into the story!! They just dont make one that can handle me!! I have never had a lawnmower, no matter how cheap or how expensive, that I havent managed to destroy within two weeks!! There was one that I ran the back tires off of the second time I used it!! I had bent both of the axles and the tires were wobbling...and I dont mean just a little bit, either!! I just kept using it, and before long one of the tires would come completely off!! I mowed the last time last summer holding up on the handle at the approximate level where the tires would be, because the tire was gone, it was irreparable, and I was trying to finish up with three tires!! (That is why he was talking to people who mow for a living and consulting Consumer reports, because he was trying to get me a lawnmower that is more sturdily built and hopefully it will be able to withstand the punishment I am undoubtedly going to put it through)!! And we dont even buy weedeaters any more, we havent in several years!! I have a whole weedeater mausoleum out in the shed!! And that is not even the half of it, but I am sure you are getting the picture!! The list is a mile long!! He is forever and a day helping me find my cell-phone, my debit card, my shoes, has bought and surprised me with things that I have admired but was going to wait until they went on clearance before I would buy them, and a bazillion other things that he does to help me out and make me happy!! Anything I mention, he is on it like a bonnet!! He knows I love him, I rely on him, I wouldnt trade him for a hundred others!! I know he feels the same about me!! We are solid!! We just relate to each other differently than most people!! We are having fun with one another and our situations as we travel along our road together!! (The next time you see him, you might pat him on the back and say I dont know how in the world you do it, man!! He deserves it a lot more than I do!!) There is one incident that really stands out in my mind that made me realize that maybe we seem a little odd to other people: We were at Sams in Joplin, in the check-out line. There was a young guy (a teenager, for sure, maybe still in High School) that was scanning our stuff and Wade said something...for the life of me, I cannot remember what it was...and I just looked at him and said Thats it. I want a divorce. And you are keeping the kids. And the dogs. And the cats. Except for my Midder, I am keeping him. He came back with something, I retaliated with something else. We were having a grand time...until...we realized that the conveyor wasnt moving anymore. We looked at that poor guy and he was just staring at us wide-eyed, mouth agape!! He had completely stopped scanning and was just looking at us like he wanted to run away. If I had looked at him and said BOO, I am willing to bet that he would have passed-out on the spot!! LOL We assured him that everything was fine, that we were just teasing!! We still talk about that from time to time!! So there is a little glimpse into the lives of the Potters!! Its all good!! I am blessed beyond measure!! I cant speak for the Mister, you would have to ask him whether he feels blessed or not!! :) LOL