(Inbox) I have a question, and Im hoping it could be addressed by a third party. I find myself to be very understanding but I need help. Ive been dating my fiancé for about 6 months now. We were friends before we started dating, he was my friend through 2 boyfriends & didnt try anything while I was in the relationships. He always had a job but he was very content with how things were. Never wanting more. I went to jail & lost everything. My job, my home, my car. When I got out he was there for me. I was doing what I could, but he provided for me until he lost his job. I finally found a good paying job, and tried getting my life back. I bought 2 more cars, he lost his in an accident. He was sleeping on other peoples couches, asking his mom for money, borrowing from me. Finally he lost everything and I allowed him to move in with me and my son. I got him 3 jobs, yet hes lost all of them. Crashed my car, and is just sitting at home. He sees me struggling with money, trying to make ends meet and he is not looking actively looking for a job. Im considering getting a second job because were swimming in bills. Hes trying to attempt getting his guard card to become security but instead of applying for jobs, hes having his aunt try to get him a job at her work, which is 3 cities away (which he has no way of getting to), and is no guarantee. Im tired of living this way (hes been unemployed for a month- this stretch) and Im on his case about it every single day. Am I wrong? I feel as if a man should be supporting his woman, by any means necessary. I want my own place, a better car, and a better lifestyle for me and my son, and it seems as if hes lacking the motivation to get his life together. My question is, do I continue and wait for him to get his motivation because I love this man, or do I let this continuing financial situation separate our lives? #MCAR
Posted on: Sun, 04 Jan 2015 19:44:58 +0000