Interesting topic today at lunch with my colleagues. I was not part of the initial conversation until I was brought in by being asked this question: Are you still friends with your exs? Now, my colleagues are brilliant, educated, God fearing people.... so the conversation had no negative undertones and it was certainly not a bashing party.....as being a part of the human experience, it was simply a thought provoking question. And the answer to it is, yes. I am friends with all of my former significant others(not that I have that many...lol) and I speak to most of them on a regular basis. The questions that followed are why?...and how? You would have to know me to understand it. Generally, I tend not to worry about whats going on at my feet...and instead look at whats going on past the horizon. Whats at my feet is old. Anger, bitterness, who was wrong, who was right, was it tragic, was it amicable, did it slip away quietly or expload violently. Whats going on at my feet doesnt matter anymore but rather whats going on at the horizon does. These people whom I have loved and shared a large portion of my life with are still Gods children, still human, still contribute to this earth in some way. They still have value and worth to the Lord..... So, I have never been the type to be able to carry on as if they no longer exist....especially if they reach out to me consistently. I believe it is possible to continue to pour into the lives of those you once loved through prayer and encouragement and even laugh every now and then. Its never about being together. No. No. And you should never cross any boundaries. The feelings must be mutual. They love me, pray for me and encourage me as well. A couple of them have known me since we were kids so some of my favorite conversations start with, Hey, remember when... Parting is extremely painful and its never easy in the beginning but hopefully you may be blessed like me and the day will come when you can be friends. If not, thats perfectly alright too...it works out better for some people to remain distant....but just because they are exs they may still be the people who have your best interest at heart....who want to see you prosper and succeed and who genuinely love you....dont keep tripping on whats at your feet and miss whats on the horizon...
Posted on: Tue, 22 Jul 2014 22:36:18 +0000
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