Islam forbids wife beating January 13, 2008 in Islam, Sharia Law, Society | Tags: Domestic violence, Islam, Muslim women, Myth, Rania al-Baz, Saudi women, Sharia, Women Rights Wife beating myth I will prove to you with multiple fonts that in Islam is forbidden to beat your wife in any way. The relationship between the husband and wife should be based on mutual love and kindness آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. [30:21] In the event of a family dispute, the Qur’an exhorts the husband to treat his wife kindly and not to overlook her positive aspects: يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَرِثُوا النِّسَاءَ كَرْهًا وَلا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلا أَنْ يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُبَيِّنَةٍ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may Take away part of the dower ye have given them,-except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a something that Allah brings about through it a great deal of good. [04:19] Prophet Muhammad always was against violence over women. «He never hit any female, and he used to say that the best of men are those who do not hit their wives. In one hadith he expressed his extreme repulsion from this behavior and said, “How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then embrace (sleep with) her?” (Al-Bukhari, English Translation, vol. 8, Hadith 68, pp. 42-43)» by Dr. Muzammil H. Siddiqi “Do not beat the female servants of Allah”; “Some (women) visited my family complaining about their husbands (beating them). These (husbands) are not the best of you.” From website “Reading Islam”: The problem is with the practice and not with the law either in Islam or any other culture. This value of mutual respect amongst humans is a keynote to the Islamic moral code. The Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘A Muslim would neither abuse nor speak bad words to, nor curse others.’ (Sahih Muslim) Also, he always stressed the fact that men should treat their women in a fair way and never to use violence in dealing with them. He said: ‘Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not harm his neighbors. And I command you to take good care of the women.’ (Bukhari) Even when women misbehave, tolerance and not violence is recommended, as a way to solve the problem. The Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘No believing man should hate a believing woman, if he hates one of her manners, he should be satisfied with another.’ The Prophet also said: ‘The believers who have the best manners are those who have the most perfect faith. The best amongst you are the best towards their wives.’ (Tirmidhi) The Lightly beating Myth West loves to show videos of Saudi sheiks saying that the Quran order Muslim husbands to beat their wives when they disobey. I live in Western Europe I saw a lot of it and Youtube is full of those videos. That is an misinterpretation of the verse 34 sura An-Nisa. Actualy thisis mutch more than a misinterpretation is also linguistic problem. [4:34] الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ وَاللاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلا إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا In one of the English translations it goes like this: [4:34] Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). Most of translations say: “beat them (lightly)” This is a misinterpretation of Arabic. Take a look again with the Arabic words underline (4:34) [...]as for those women on whose part ye fear rebellion (nushuz), admonish them and banish them to beds apart, (and last) beat (adriboo) them. Then, if they obey you, seek not a way against them In the website Islam awareness and answering-christianity there is good explain for this misunderstood: (the text below is a copypaste from: islamawareness.net/Wife/beating1.html The key to the problem is the mistranslation of the two key words nushuz and adriboo. Some of the possible meanings for both the words, according to the lexicon,3 are given below. Again, the appropriate meaning will depend on the context of the verse. Nushuz: Animosity, hostility, rebellion, ill-treatment, discord; violation of marital duties on the part of either husband or wife. Adriboo (root: daraba): to beat, to strike, to hit, to separate, to part. In the context of the above verse the most appropriate meaning for nushuz is ‘marital discord’ (ill-will, animosity etc), and for adriboo is ‘to separate’ or ‘to part’. Otherwise, it is inviting the likelihood of a divorce without any reconciliation procedure. Such a step would blatantly contravene the Qur’anic guidance shown in verse 4:35 below. Therefore, a more accurate and consistent translation of the above verse would be: (4:34) [...]as for those women whose animosity or ill-will you have reason to fear, then leave them alone in bed, and then separate; and if thereupon they pay you heed, do not seek a way against them. The separation could be temporary or permanent depending on the reconciliation procedure. Such as construction is legitimate within the terms of the language and fits in very well with the divorce procedure outlined in the Qur’an. The verse following the above verse gives further weight to the above translation. (4:35) And if ye fear a breach between them twain (the man and the wife), appoint an arbiter from his folk and an arbiter from her folk. If they desire amendment Allah will make them of one mind. Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Aware. Added weight to the meanings outlined above is given by verse 4:128 quoted below. Here, in the case of a man, the same word nushuz is used, but it is rendered as ‘ill-treatment’ as against ‘rebellion’ in the case of a woman as shown earlier in the traditional translation of verse 4:34. One find oneself asking whether since the ill-treatment is on the part of the husband, a process of reconciliation is here to be encouraged! (4:128) If a wife fears ill-treatment (nushuz) or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best[...] This, obviously, is a double standard and the only way to reconcile the meanings of the two verses, in the contexts they are being used, is to accept the meaning of adriboo as: ‘to separate’ or to ‘part’. In this connection I would like to refer the reader to an excellent article by Rachael Tibbet from which I quote: (a) Qur’anic commentators and translators experience problems with the term Adribu in the Qur’an not just in this verse but in others, as it is used in different contexts in ways which appear ambiguous and open to widely different translations into English. ‘Daraba’ can be translated in more than a hundred different ways. (b) The translation of adribu as ‘to strike’ in this particular verse (4:34) is founded upon nothing more than: (i) The authority of hadiths (Abu Daud 2141 and Mishkat Al-Masabih 0276) that this is what Adribu means in this context. (ii) The prejudices and environment of the early commentators of the Qur’an which led them to assume that ‘to strike’, given the overall context of the verse, was the most likely interpretation of the many possible interpretations of adribu. >>>>>>>>> Thanks A Tilling Lesson from Saudi Arabia Rania Al-Baz before and after Rania al-Baz (Arabic: رانيا الباز), a Saudi celebrity, is famous internationally for speaking out against violence against women, in particular domestic violence against Muslim women. Rania is the daughter of Yahya al-Baz, a businessman who owns a large chain of hotels in Saudi Arabia. Rania al-Baz started her career in her late teens. By her early 20s, she had become one of the best known TV figures in Saudi Arabia. Her success was largely due to her appearance on the program “The Kingdom this Morning” In 1998, Al-Baz met the singer Yunus Al-Fallatta, and soon, defying custom, they had a love marriage. After returning from a honeymoon in Paris, Al-Baz and Al-Fallatta had two children, both boys. Shortly after their marriage, Al-Fallatta’s popularity dwindled. Al-Baz, however, only gained more fame. The decrease in media attention caused the couple’s relations to deteriorate, and Al-Fallatta became “regularly violent”. Al-Baz did not report this to the authorities for a multitude of reasons. First, she feared that relations would only get worse if this were taken outside the home. Second, Saudi authorities are known to serve the interests of men over women. Al-Fallatta had been unemployed for three years, when the “accident”, as Rania Al-Baz calls it, happened. On the night of April 4th. The video below is an interview short after the beatings, which fracture her face in 13 parts including the nose, where Rania explains the incident. I am pointing this case because in theory the Saudi Arabian law gives women protection from domestic violence; in reality no woman, before Al-Baz, had ever pressed charges against her husband. In the end, the court sentenced Al-Fallatta(the husband) to six months in prison and to be flogged with 300 lashes. (Take that!!! :) ) Al-Fallatta was not found guilty of attempted murder reduced, as Al-Baz’s lawyer had initially charged, but was charged for “grievous assault”. This was the first time that a domestic violence case was successfully persecuted maybe because of the attention. The court also gave the right to divorce and the custody of the children. Al-Baz later publicly pardoned her husband. (Only a devoted Muslim could forgive this way) She is now living in Paris, she said her life was in dangerous in Saudi Arabia, she had to left her kids with her mother in Saudi Arabia. She went to The Oprah Winfrey Show and you can see that after the plastics surgeries her face look different. “I don’t feel like I’m a hero,” Rania says. “… I feel that no woman should be a victim to her husband, or a victim in anyway. A woman should have the ability to choose her own destiny.” NOTE: Saudi Arabia is a country of radical Islam that’s why her case was so important. In Tunisia for example domestic violence is 100% illegal and punished by 5 years in Prision. Conclusion According to the Noble Quran and the Sayings of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him above, wife beating in Islam is definitely prohibited, possibly even in the case where the wife fails after she was warned twice for her ill-conduct and disloyalty. It is definitely a valid interpretation for Noble Verse 4:34 that Allah Almighty commanded the Muslim men to divorce and leave their wives, and not to physically beat them as many scholars believe. A wife is not a possession! She is not an object! Memorize this “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and he has put love and mercy between your (hearts)…” Qu’ran [30:21] “Wife abuse has hurt many Muslim women, destroyed many Muslim families, and weakened the entire Muslim community. How much longer can Muslims afford to look the other way?” “I recommend that you treat women with goodness. The best of you are those who treat their wives the best.” Prophet Muhammed Orlando, 2008 Portugal بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمِ In the name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
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