It is important to be kind to others, and to be supportive. But sometimes people can become so attached to the idea that they NEED others to give their life meaning. We cannot twist ourselves inside out or get sucked into other peoples insecurities so that we feel guilty when we are dealing with our own stuff. Likewise, when we are feeling insecure, lost, or alone unless we have constant attention from someone else it means that we really need to go inside ourselves to find the true cause of our unhappiness with who we are. When we become so set on someone else bringing us joy we put stress on the relationship, and we dig a deeper pit to wallow in. We all need to learn how to bring joy to ourselves, by finding our passion on our own. Someone else is not the answer. When we are happy with who we are, and kind to ourselves we dont give out that needy energy that can send some people flying as far away as they can get. Sometimes we dont even realize the energy we give off with our constant sad stories and puppy dog eyes, but others feel attacked for trying to live their own lives when guilt is insinuated. Coming from my own personal experiences and the experiences of others, I see how it might seem easy to let others create a life for us. But also from personal experience and the experiences of others I see how people can be totally destroyed when a relationship ends, when someone moves away, or passes, because they never learned to love themself. Some will pick up with the first person who shows interest, without thinking things through. That is why some people seem to have neverending strings of failed relationships, because they are so afraid of getting to know themselves that they just jump from one person to another without thinking things through. When it all comes down, YOU are the ONLY constant in your own life that you can count on. So you have to be happy with YOU because you will be there until you die. You cannot break up with yourself, you cannot move away from yourself, you cannot ignore yourself or delete yourself from your facebook friends. Why not start today? Look in the mirror and tell yourself what a beautiful soul you are. Ask yourself, what do YOU want to do? What brings you joy? When you think about it, its pretty easy. No waiting around for someone else to make the move. Make yourself happy. When you are happy you will attract more reasons to be happy, and happy people and experiences will be drawn to you. Self-love; its in you to give.
Posted on: Mon, 24 Nov 2014 19:51:52 +0000