Its a tough pill to swallow. I guess Ive been doing it all wrong. No not how Ive been eating, or how Ive been pleasing my wife, (Id rather have a dont ask dont tell approach with that subject.) But actually it disciplining my children. A new university study about disciplining children wants to correct our wrongs. Weve already been told that you cant hit them, time outs dont work either. Now the scholars say yelling at teens and tweens, particularly when it involves cursing or insults, can be just as harmful as hitting. These know it alls want us to try and coach our children, no limits or boundaries. Just give advice to your kids, not orders. When your child starts to get on your last nerve, take a break, thats what the university experts suggest. NOW THIS IS THE PART I LAUGHED AT. They advise parents when the kid isnt listening and is pushing your patience; have a piece of hard candy and look at a pretty picture of your child. After a few moments talk to your child on what can we do to make things smoother? If I had pushed my fathers buttons to the point of blowing his top, and then said hey pop heres a piece of candy, go in the house and look at a picture of me. I have no doubt I wouldnt be here today and my dad would be serving prison time. My mother was one to yell, so she would have been in the womens prison a few years earlier. (I do think she would have look good in stripes.) My parents were not big on smacking us as kids. But we knew if we pushed them, it was something that wasnt off the table. If your kids have no fear of you, most normal kids would never listen to a word you say. Everything worth doing has repercussions from not doing it. Fear drives everything. You dont show up for work, you fear losing your job. (When you do get to work, toss the boss a jolly rancher and say everythings cool, it wont be.) You dont lock your car, you fear it getting stolen. You never romance your girlfriend, you fear her finding someone who will. Its a Saturday night, you told your wife all week you were going to take her out to a nice dinner, but you change your mind. Instead you give her a piece of hard candy and a picture of you. See what happens? I would be afraid. Their will be hell to pay. I overheard a lady once talking about her children misbehaving. She had calmly tried everything, no luck, then she went crazy. Things got done. Moral of her story? When all else fails, crazy works. Makes sense to me. I actually have a second home in the state of crazy. Ask my children. If I had give my two cents worth to the know it all university egg heads. The trouble with most children nowadays is that they get everything, except discipline. If a parent cannot punish, you cannot persuade. But hey, what do I know? If my children do want to try this candy approach with me Id go for either a Werthers Original or a Ring Pop.
Posted on: Tue, 18 Mar 2014 16:58:58 +0000
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