...Its time to talk about identifying some of the ways that NEGATIVE SELF TALK can manifest. Its so insidious! (The following was taken from the Valley of the Sun YMCA Family Fuel curriculum on Positive Self Talk, as was the posted worksheet on Positives, mildly edited by yours truly -- Teri). Common Types Of Negative Self Talk include: 1- Black and White Thinking (or All or None Thinking): You view a situation as EITHER/OR, instead of seeing a larger realm of possible choices. Example: If I dont exercise for 60 minutes, it doesnt count. 2- Magnification/Minimization: When you evaluate yourself, another person, or a situation, you magnify the negative and/or minimize the positive. Example: Your trainer corrects your form on ONE of your eight Front Squats and you think, I can NEVER do squats without messing up! 3- Mind Reading: You believe you know what others are thinking and therefore fail to consider other more likely possibilities. Example: While I am at the gym, I know others will be thinking that I am too fat to be there. 4- Over-generalization: You come to a sweeping, negative conclusion that goes far beyond the current situation. Example: Because I over-ate last night at dinner, I dont have what it takes to stick to my goals. 5- Personalization: You believe others are behaving negatively because of YOU, without considering more plausible explanations for their behavior. Example: Someone looks at you in a snarly way and exclaims, Youre getting skinny; you need to stop working out so much and start eating! (We all know where THATS coming from, more than likely , unless its your very best friend who has known you for years who has just said that to you... in which case you are well within your rights to first hear her out and THEN punch her in the face! Ha!) 6- Labeling: You put a fixed, global label on yourself and/or others without considering that the evidence might more reasonably lead to a less disastrous conclusion. Example: I am a loser. I am a failure. (OR: He/she is a loser. He/she is a failure). Ouch, right? Who has been there and done any of these? Who is still doing them? (raising both hands in the air right now!). BTW, on the subject of taking personal responsibility and not sweeping the truth about ourselves under the carpet, its pretty obvious that, far too often, we overdo in the its all my fault category (I could be up for an Oscar if truth be told). So, talk about your stuff with a trusted friend if youre wondering. Take an honest look in the mirror when necessary. But use the above list as your reminder that most NEGATIVE affirmations have one thing in common: They each are likely to contain just enough truth to make them easier to swallow! Work on being discerning. Learn how to separate the truth from the lies. Hmmm... reminds me of a verse: ...Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. : ) -- shared from Womens Fitness Forum
Posted on: Wed, 30 Oct 2013 15:06:16 +0000