Jipende...love yourself #selfie A theme that has got me seriously thinking.How often do we appreciate who we are?Do we love ourselves even the slightest bit?We channel most of our energy and effort into pleasing others and being who they would want us to be.We have allowed society to define us and the need to fit in to dictate who we are and what we do. Self-esteem is the PRICE you attach to yourself.Its called self which means its you who determines it.Having a low/high esteem is a personal choice and that which you choose to adapt is what other people take and run with. Self esteem can be affected by factors within our environment such as lack of appreciation,rejection,discrimination,physical abuse,desire to fit in.....but even with all these factors the back stops with you.It is you who determines how these factors affect your esteem.It is the meaning that you attach to these incidences that determines the effect they will have on your esteem. The magnitude of the impact of these factors is dependent on the individuals coping skills and how well their support system is.Self-appreciation&self-acceptance can play a vital role in how we handle these forces.If someone said sth negative about you;if u hv accepted and appreciated who you are it is highly unlikely to affect you:if u hv not appreciated/accepted yourself then what happens is that you keep replaying that conversation in your head until what they said sticks into your head.If u know who you are:;no one can define you in a different manner unless you allow them to. Self-defeating thinking and negative self-talk contribute immensely to having a low self-esteem.If I belive I cant;I think I cant and I verbalize it then...I cant.Think positive thoughts,confessing positive things and acting in a manner to enhance the thoughts will yield positive results. Love yourself,love life,think positively,speak positively,self-appreciation(dont seek appreciation/approval from others-find self-contentment first;if approval/appreciation comes embrace it but if it doesnt u had already appreciated yourself-it shouldnt hurt),be happy:dont peg your hapiness on the happiness of others-being a people pleaser will take u no-where other than a bottomless pit of self-pity and self-rejection....above all embrace the love of God. The back stops and starts with you #self
Posted on: Tue, 26 Aug 2014 08:58:32 +0000
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