Latest from the planetmates … on the Great Mom, increasing socialization, baby magic, summoning the goddess, people-pleasing and manipulation, actions-at-a-distance, baby praying…. “So it was that your extremely controlling proclivities reached a peak with your agrarian and sedentary lifestyles. All that one interacted with on a daily basis was slotted for control—whether animate or inanimate. Deviation from what was expected became an evil; certainty was sought; routine was relied on and reinforced whenever possible. Power over was become an ultimate value; interaction with—with its concomitants of interesting engagement and learning—was looked down upon. All of this can be subsumed under the category of the increasing rigidification of Ego … the fearful Ego. “Of course the flip side of controlling was conforming or sycophancy. The rising rigidity of Ego was coincident with an increasing debasement of your real, or natural, self. The intuitions and desires of the natural self were tossed to the side in deference to the demands of survival—whose instrument in the world was Ego. Correspondingly, survival was more precarious now, tottering, as it was, increasingly upon the good will, or at least the non-antagonism, of higher ups, as well as that of the necessary others—those equals with whom one’s interacting would bring the satisfaction of needs not able to be satisfied on one’s own. You might say that humans were becoming more “social” or more “socialized.” And it is true that extra dependency upon others forced the development of skills and traits that were beneficial, even laudable. But these came at a cost to one’s natural self. Humans, to the extent they could, built cabins of comfortable belongingness, but they rested uneasily upon shifting sands of mistrust and fear. Society and culture took the place of your missing connection with Nature. But again, Nature, with all its unpredictability, is far more reliable than ever-inattentive humans with starving hearts. “At any rate, this extra dependency on the social world required an attention to others and their needs, which itself could come about through increased attention to the verbal and physical expressions—the conscious and unconscious communications—of others. However, this attention was skewed and diminished. Rather than providing insight into the deeper feelings and experiences of others, all this information was laid alongside the measure of how it could be used to satisfy one’s needs—both conscious and real, as well as unconscious and counterproductive. So, therein we have sycophancy toward higher ups. But we have also manipulation, masked by people-pleasing behavior, toward one’s equals. “And, indeed, this behavior—sycophancy and manipulation—was rooted all the way back in your earliest interactions with Other as an infant. It is as babies when the outlines of control and sycophancy are drawn. Helpless to acquire the satisfaction of one’s needs upon one’s own power, you as babies needed to enlist the support of caregivers to the ends of your survival. Your desire is to have power, to have increasing control of your surroundings, for you had little to none in early infancy. You could make noises, flap your arms, smile, laugh (eventually), cry, babble, but not much more. You cannot, as infant primates can, get up and go over to your mother and begin suckling while clinging to her fur … getting your own breakfast, as it were. No. Mother must come to you! To stay safe and to feel secure, you cannot cling to your mother’s fur as your nearest planetmates can, assuring the both of you, as she goes about in the course of a day. So when your mother puts you down, as she must, to attend to other things and in that she cannot carry you all the time, your only connection with her will be through your voice; you must cry to let her know you are near and to assure yourself that she is near. So, helpless as can be, you must use cunning rather than physical ability to get your mother to attend to your needs. “But how can you make that happen? Well, you use what you have. And those early baby actions, those actions-at-a-distance to influence the Great Mom, those early attempts at the construction of biological remotes to influence the ever-changing “programs” on the “screen” of life become your accomplished repertoire. With daily practice you were able to refine those tiny movements of face and hands, of crying and smiling, of noise and laughter and to orchestrate them precisely to bring about your desired ends. “So, as infants, you learn to smile, point, cry, screech, and babble with finesse. Your early attempts are unplanned, automatic, crude, and for the most part, ineffectual … like the early attempts of any future virtuoso. But smiling, you find, brings forth the Great Mom’s countenance. You realize eventually you have the power to summon the “gods.” You reach out for an object and cannot get to it. But still you try, and sooner or later, you find it drifts into your hand. For again, there has been an intercession from the Great Mom, this time brought about through the minute extension of a finger—pointing. Crying out in pain is what all planetmates do. But you are the only one who turns it into a communication … a bit of an art form. Early on, when hungry, you were in pain and cried; you were soiled and uncomfortable and cried; you could not extricate yourself from a painful position, and cried. Very often, though not always, this brought forth the goddess, the Great Mother, and most of the time things were set right. It did not take long for you to employ crying, not just out of pain, but as a way of communicating to that goddess. This form of baby praying, this self-flagellation for the purpose of being blessed by the goddess, you put more energy into so as to make it work better. So you cried until you were heard. And you learned to cry longer and louder to achieve your ends. “Being ever more successful at summoning the Great Mom, you found yourself often in her presence. Simply the appearance of her face, the divine visage, brought forth waves of peace and contentment. Everything would be set right. But the Great Mother was not always directable in the way one wanted. You found that to the degree that you could interact with that Great Being and communicate with that face, you could achieve success. So you watched and learned from that face what was desirable, what was pleasing, and what actions of yours brought forth pleasantness, “rained down” from on high, and what brought forth nothing … or pain….” [More coming…. ]
Posted on: Mon, 20 Jan 2014 18:46:31 +0000