Lifestyle Trick #374: KEEP A TOPIC IN YOUR POCKET! Youve heard me say it a million times language matters. The words that come out of our mouth have a powerful effect on our mood, energy and the people around us. We can set the tone high or low in an instant with the words and emotions we choose. Furthermore, we know that emotions are like an avalanche, good or bad they feed off each other and multiply. Keeping control of our words an emotions is one thing, but we must also be mindful of the language that others bring to us. Despite the best of intentions our fabulous mood, we may end up engaging with a person with loves to complain, gossip or have a hurtful language. It happens. It hurts your ears and kills the joy of the moment but honestly its no big deal. You are a leader. Adopt a fun new trick to divert low energy conversation and PROTECT YOUR ENERGY! KEEP A FRESH TOPIC IN YOUR POCKET! As awkward as it may feel at first....CHANGE THE TOPIC, FAST! Thats right, the second someone drops negative language in your presence, simply reach in your pocket, pullout a fresh new topic and drop it like an energy bomb right in the middle of the conversation. Yes, you have to be brave enough to simply change the conversation. Extend the opportunity to discuss something else by leading the way with a new topic, something with a lighter energy. Most complainers dont even recognize their behavior and they will nearly always follow your energy right to a new topic. You will be amazed at how fast the energy rises right in front of you;) Most of the time the person follows right along without even knowing. People are most often happy to be happy, they just need to be lead to the happiness! Perfect, because you are a leader! Heres the trick: dont make it a big deal. JUST DO IT. Dont bother telling them they are wrong or negative, simply direct all your energy to moving the new conversation forward with grace and a smile. Warning: can feel awkward in the best way possible. Be the leader of your own happiness but give others the chance to join in too! Most people are not even aware of the impact that low energy conversation and negative language has on their life. #languageleader #languagematters If after a few tries it doesnt work, EXCUSE YOURSELF and leave the scene. If your group chooses to bypass the opportunity to be delightful simple excuse yourself. Walk away politely, WITHOUT judgment, in search of that higher level conversation that you have learned to love so much. YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED TO WALK AWAY AND PROTECT YOUR ENERGY. Now, Lets talk leadership... We know by now that it is up to us, to take care of us. Our happiness IS our responsibly. When they say it takes courage to be happy, this is what they are speaking of. The happiest people are leaders in their energy. Leaders own and appreciate their responsibilities knowing that not everyone chooses to be a leader. And thats ok. WE ARE LEADERS. As language and energy leaders we must embrace 3 simple facts: #1 We cannot change other people, we can only influence them. The best way to be helpful to negative person is to continue to LEAD BY EXAMPLE. That is my honest truth. We are only one person, we are only in control of ourselves. We CANNOT tell people about the way, we can only show them the way, which in itself contains a very high energy. It is our HIGH ENERGY that attracts their attention and senses toward us. With their full attention we can choose to invite them to operate at our level and deliver quality conversation or total comfortable silence. Keep that in mind... INFLUENCE THEM #2 NEGATIVITY ALWAYS EXISTS, ALWAYS. On our journey we have to continually condition our mind to keep negativity in the background, not the foreground. This takes practice and attention. In the beginning of my journey I wore headphones a lot, on purpose. I was not yet beyond being affected by the language around me. I would hear negativity and somehow own it, even if it was a total stranger I was affected or offended by it. I knew I had to drown it out with some positivity, such as The Secret on audio or some other motivational tool. The same negativity still exists all around me, I have just conditioned my mind to a higher energy. USE YOUR GRATITUDE list to shift your attention away from complainers, go internal and think of what you are grateful for and raise your own energy. Do not give your attention to negativity. Use your tools to remain grateful. #3 Be prepared to change the subject or walk away. YEP. I will not tolerate low energy complainers around me. BE ADVISED: telling a low energy person to stop complaining is like slamming your own head in the door on purpose, it never turns out well. YOU HAVE TO BE THE LEADER. At the risk of sounding like a total freak, you have to just throw down a whole new topic. Change the subject FAST. Soooo..... how much fun can you have with this?? Instead of being plagued by low energy, be excited by it. Use your new energy tricks to see if you cant raise the energy. Talk about being of service..... This is so NEXT LEVEL. I believe in energy, Coach B
Posted on: Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:42:41 +0000
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