Listening to the news I heard a report of a family fighting childrens services for custody of their daughter. I wont mention the name or the state but it brought memories flooding in from years past that I thought I had successfully put to rest. I sat down yesterday and tried to condense that experience and ended up with three pages and I wasnt even close to the finale. You may have family and friends that work for family and childrens services and Im not suggesting all those people are evil or plotting some wicked thing. There is a lady who was actively involved in my personal process that I considered a friend and years later offered her help when that situation had resurfaced in a divorce. I sympathize with the father of that child who is vocal and is throwing dust in the air in all directions. I called the governors office, Newt Gingrichs office, Indiana adoptive parenting associations office, I had a friend who was an attorney who worked for a former president and argued in the supreme court helping try to find a way to get this child back. I forced an investigation (internal - not worth much). In the end I was told to hire a lawyer to protect my family because they would have to come up with charges to justify what they did and was told to shut up. There were no secrets in my closet because I had been totally transparent about everything. To fight it you have to fight the State. I have never felt more hopeless than I did at that moment. It was a turning point in my life. Only a hand full of people knew I had been considering divorce for years. I had this screwy sense of nobility and kept it from only a few. I stood in a meeting and listened to criticism and complaints and realized I was screwed all over again. The people that knew were the first to run and others followed and I was left holding my ass in my own hands. My heart goes out to this father who finds a brick wall every directions he goes. You always want to hope for the best but sometimes it takes a very long time to get there. We are surrounded by people who are struggling and often keep it to themselves. Maybe we should give the folks we come in contact with a break because with all we know we dont know it all.
Posted on: Sat, 29 Mar 2014 14:14:46 +0000
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