Living a life of abuse is not okay. Often times the signs seem like an odd circumstance. They become more frequent with yelling, criticizing, and blaming you for their abusive behavior. Its your fault they lost their temper. Then, over time, it escalates. Constantly checking on you, isolating you from friends and family, limiting access to money. Many times, when you question remaining in the relationship they will break down into tears claiming they do not deserve you. You feel like youre walking on pins and needles as it progressively gets worse. Then one day you realize that they are destroying your personal belongings, they begin threatening you, you are often in a mode of servitude trying to keep them from losing their temper. I was shocked when I woke up one morning realizing that I was in an abusive relationship. Then when he burst out in a jealous rage exclaiming that he owned me and that nobody touches his property--I yelled back that I am not an object to be owned by anyone. I walked out the door and found another place to live. Unfortunately, the next relationship I got into was also abusive but that ticking time bomb was on slow simmer and I got out when I realized that he was controlling the money I earned, trying to control what routes I should be driving home, and criticizing me. Life has not been easy but I have always walked away and never looked back. My soul mate came to me by weird circumstance when I was already planning my exit strategy. There is life after abuse. There is happiness and security in knowing that you do not need a man in your life. It is okay to want one but not at the expense of your safety, your independence, nor will a good man ever demand you to relinquish your inner strength. Ever.
Posted on: Wed, 10 Dec 2014 13:24:30 +0000
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