***MALE READER NEEDS ADVICE*** NO BASHING!!! There happens to be this guy who thinks when Im away from my wife its his time to shine. She saves the messages, gave me her facebook password, never locks her phone, and ignores the guy. One time she even printed off her phone records to prove that he texted/called her and she never responded. She isnt the issue, this guy is always messing with her; sometimes even violent threats. She repeatedly told him to leave her alone, and he even began calling and threatening her parents. She changed her number once and he got it again because of a friend. When I was on leave he actually showed up at our house and stood out front until I went outside. Being in the army I cant and wont fight him. She isnt the one Im worried about. She is faithful, and absolutely amazing; shed never cheat. But all I hear is how girls are awful, but now the situation is reversed. This gets under my skin because of the disrespect he shows me. He even bashes me because Im an infantryman. When I deploy I always fear her safety and what hes doing. She laughs it off and says dont worry. Im not worried I am pissed. There isnt really any advise I can get, I just wanted to vent. I mean girls are vindictive, but not always guilty. My wife and I are trying for a family, and I fear that shell get pregnant, ill deploy and he will hurt her. He stalks her, and weve tried the protection order, it never gets passed. But it is all on one huge document. When I deploy I am worried sick about her. I know shed never cheat on me, but this guy has beyond pissed me off. There isnt a thing I can do about it. At first it was a compliment you know, that a guy thought my wife was beautiful, now its an insult. He thinks because she gets lonely when Im gone hell score with her. She has never given me any reason to doubt her, and because Im so mad at the situation she gets hurt thinking I dont trust her. I do. When she goes out with her friends she offers me to come with her. I never ask her to but she always sends pics of herself with her friends while shes gone just to ease my mind. Shes even offered to show me her work hours when she clocked in and out. I dont want to see them, I trust her. But one night and ill never forget the call, her best friend called me and told me this guy was up there and him and my wife were fighting. I set a world record driving and got there just in time because it hadnt gotten physical. when the guy saw me he took off running. She goes above and beyond to reassure me she isnt cheating and I feel bad because I do trust her; but I know she does all this reassuring me because she thinks I dont. how can I make her see that what pisses me off isnt her; but this guy? My inlaws tell me that because I told him to leave her alone and I went outside and shared some words with him when he wouldnt leave her alone, I let him know he was getting to me and thats why he wont stop. I dont know what to do. Im getting ready to return to active duty and I am so scared of what will happen when Im gone. Since I cant get the guy to f*ck off, how can I make my wife understand it isnt her, that I do trust her?
Posted on: Mon, 26 May 2014 02:47:13 +0000