MENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN, she wants you to specifically answer! Hello Zane.... Im 31 years old & Ive been with my man for about 9 months now. We took our time getting to know each other & started out as friends. We have our disagreements here & there but for the most part everything is great; this is the best relationship Ive had. We had a very honest conversation this morning that bothered me, honestly it hurt. He tells me he loves me & I have no doubt that he does because his actions tell it all, but this morning he told me that hes not IN LOVE yet. He was in love with a woman whom he was planning on marrying but left a couple years ago. And he says he thinks its gonna take a long time b4 he feels like that again. I am IN LOVE with him & assumed he felt the same because he acts like a man in love. Ive had several men in the past fall in love with me sometimes too fast & it made me wonder if thats just something that some ppl do cuz they want love so bad. Now I have this man that Im head over heels for & hes telling me that its not there for him. Part of me says to move on because if hes not in love by now, he wont ever be & maybe Im just not the woman for him. But I also wonder if thats fair to assume that everyone falls in love within a few months?? Can u truly love your partner if youre not IN LOVE with him/her? I especially wanna hear from the men. What are your thoughts Zane? MY RESPONSE: With football games in full effect, I hope some men will actually respond. For me, I say that you need to appreciate his honesty. I would prefer for a man to never lie to me. I am guessing that you are the one who posed the question instead of him coming out and saying that he is not in love with you. Nine months is a lifetime to some and a moment to others. If he is showering you with the attention, respect and affection that you desire, give him some time. Rarely do two people fall in love at the same exact moment. That only happens in books. To answer your question, not everyone can fall in love within a few months and it is possible to have a great relationship even if the two people do not feel exactly the same. Give him some time and do not rock the boat if things are going well. He may have some defense mechanisms up after being hurt before. Women hold back from putting their hearts back on the line all the time. Sounds like you need to relax and see what happens because it is not as simple to go out and find another man who even acts like a man in love.
Posted on: Sun, 02 Nov 2014 18:37:30 +0000
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