MOST TIMES WHEN A LADY SAYS NO, AND LATER BEHAVES YES, IT TAKES AN ENTIRE LIFE-TIME EXPERIENCE FOR MEN TO REALIZE SHE ACTUALLY MEANT NO ALL ALONG !!! When it comes to passion things can get really complicated. Things would have been a lot simpler if girls, by nature, were designed not to have a personal preference in the matter of falling in love. I wish all girls have to do is follow a convincing person 100%, but that is definitely not the case and guys are the last to notice. Our world would have been perfect if ladies were incapable of passion until they are married at least. Men like to think that all a lady needs to tag along with a man is for them to command enough respect and resources and it does appear so on face value. If a man has it all together ladies will, as we see all the time, fall over themselves to be with him in their numbers. Thats the argument, but events have shone over time that you cant really count on that kind of follower-ship because as the money starts to dwindled so does the women. The biggest lesson I have learnt from this is, people can follow you without really following you. They follow you with their head and not with their hearts. They have need of what youve got. Alarmed ?! Dont be. Seek ye first the kingdom of money and all the girls will follow you! Isnt that how men have approached relationships relationship matters with the female for ages and bringing on untold consequences upon ourselves ? Unfortunately girls can fall wantonly in love just like men. In fact they fall harder in love most time, unfortunately society have no place for them to openly express the volcanoes erupting inside them. Their assigned role according to society in the face of this kinds of emotional insurgence in their hearts is to wait ...and wait...and wait...and yes maybe pray...and wait. Wow! I dont envy them at all. Finally I found one reason Im glad am not a female. Pheeeew, ladies how do you people ever put up with this one? Oh yes, the reality is, ladies have crushes too. They can discriminate too; not just anyone will do, they too have preference. In the past, in the times of our forefathers and our fathers perhaps, girls were treated as if her place in creation is to be simply grateful that any man is even paying her any attention at all and dutifully love whosoever she is dumped with. Today, it is still very unlikely for girls to go after the one they love and prefer; that would classify them as unsavory whore. So what happens to their pulsating passion imploding inside everyone of them? Yes every single one of them! Perhaps by sheer miracle would we find a paltry 5% who end up with the man she craves. And these kinds of miracle mercifully happens only when the men come for them perhaps because the feeling is mutual. For 95% of ladies the man they crave is hardly ever aware, or uninterested...maybe even labouring to get another girls attention. More painful for ladies is the fact that, unlike the men, she is inhibited morally from following her heart and hunting down all her possible DESIRABLES even if it means risking rejection(like men would). She must wait, hope, pray...anything but the pursuance of the possibilities her heart pants for. The implications is grave! Yes she will marry eventually and try to be a good wife, but first she unconsciously seeks compensation for missing out on her heart desire. And who is there to judge her? Men are the least qualified; dont men insist and ensure they get someone they certify as relatively satisfactory? If anyone should preach contentment which is a valid virtue in everything, it couldnt be men who most of the time wantonly hunt down anyone that fits into their remote fantasies. A woman, outside of being with the person she passionately craves and loves without inducements, has to be bought. You have to be really CONVINCING !! The most expensive woman is the one who is not with her preferred man. The most VALUABLE woman is the one who finds her heart desired man. As for the majority of women who must marry for other reasons, she must be wooed with things, material things...expensive things and maybe some huge promises, some lies too. There must be constant gifts and shopping. Most times she seeks to be happy at the mans expense. Thats because deep down she sacrificing too much already, she has to live with the reality that even though a preferable man exist she must stay tied to the available. Someone has to pay a high price for her martyrdom, and that person is the man in her life. She holds back; never letting herself go completely, as if she still looks forward to something better; and she is. She lives with a deep sense of loss. Wow! She hardly makes sacrifices for the man in her life man; her man? She pours all her love, affection and sacrifices on her children when then children finally come along. Oh yes, she is well capable of lavishing love on others, her husband simply doesnt quite qualify if she had to choose the way men do. If she had to do him any favour, its out of pity, after all he is trying, and frankly her reality is not entirely his fault. She lives with this cravings she cant quite fulfil with her husband. She actually wants an escape if it wont cost too much. She is angry with herself for lacking the courage to grab her love and for saying yes to anyone but her perfect ideal who is at large and perhaps with someone who definitely doesnt deserve him (and who else could deserve him except her alone) and someone has to pay. Worse still is, she is likely to cheat at some point because of the pressure of hidden of bottled desires. Solution ?? I suggest men should stop buying womens love. Especially if you have to break your neck to be convincing. A woman who craves you wont demand you die to prove your love to her. Men should be sensitive because a woman can say yes to you for 100 reasons other than being 20% into you. The best you can have is when a lady, by herself, without your engineering it craves you. She would do for you what she can do for no other. A woman is capable of making you fly if you are her choice. Trouble is, most womens choice counts for nothing because society say they cant pursue it. More troublesome is, their cravings wont go away or disappear just because they are married to you. So be careful when you rejoice that you finally got her to say yes and marry you. Its better if her heart pants after you like your is after her. If you care about a 100% love, then by all means you have to be sure you are her choice. If you are not, its always trouble. The best you can get is some lethargic room mate. Here we have the age long mystery broken! 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Posted on: Fri, 25 Jul 2014 09:27:44 +0000
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